Ep. 114 - Achieving Work-Life-Health Balance with Jenna Jahnz

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Here we go.

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Here we are on episode 114

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of the Trash Talk business podcast.

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This is our opportunity every week to grow,

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scale, and build our junk removal dream.

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I'm Andy Wines, host.

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I'm still looking for a co-host, kind of.

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Like, I'm not really looking.

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However, it's like 7-Eleven.

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not always doing business

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and I'm always open to the idea.

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So anyways, I'm Andy Wines.

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She's Jenna Jans,

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RN health and life coach.

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And I know that because she

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put that all in her title.

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She might have the longest

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title we've ever had here on the podcast.

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Jenna, welcome to the podcast.

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Thank you.

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Glad to be here.

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Also, I've known Jenna three plus years.

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So she's one of the few

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guests that I actually know.

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And I didn't know until

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about 40 seconds ago how to

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pronounce her last name.

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So here we are in the great

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internet interwaves world.

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All right, Jenna, I know what you do.

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Tell the listener, what is it you do?

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And then we'll dive into

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your journey and your story

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and where you're going with that.

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Sounds good.

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So I'm a registered nurse

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and a certified health and life coach.

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I specialize in men's health

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as well as weight loss.

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I was born and raised in Western medicine,

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and I spent most of my career in the ER,

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both as a nurse and an ER manager.

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And I just witnessed

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firsthand for so many years,

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the detrimental effects of

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what chronic illness does.

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And not just for my patients,

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but for my staff, for my team.

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And that's when I found

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coaching as I was

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progressing my nursing career,

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almost entering as a

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primary care provider,

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realizing that I have so

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much more benefit in

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helping people with their

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day-to-day life versus

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prescribing expensive meds

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and tests and all the

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things that Western

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medicine does for us at this time.

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I like it.

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So what is it,

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what do you do now and who do you serve?

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Yeah.

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So now I do both still.

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I coach Monday through Thursday,

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working with mostly men.

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Usually they're about the

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age of 30s to 50s,

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although my oldest client is 77,

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which I think is so fun.

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And then on the weekends, I still nurse.

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I'm a triage nurse.

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So I provide medical advice

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to patients for all of

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Wisconsin and Illinois.

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So why, let's talk about, so you,

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you only serve men in your

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coaching practice and who

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are these men typically?

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Why, why do they come to you?

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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Good question.

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Well, the, the men that I serve,

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they often come to me cause I feel like.

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I provide the safe space.

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It's having my nursing

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background as well as being

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a woman who's so interested in fitness,

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mental health, physical health,

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emotional health.

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I tend to attract guys who

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are trying to find balance.

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Their coping skills might not be the best,

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their high stress lives,

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they have high societal expectations,

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busy, on the go, diets not so good.

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And they're just trying to

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look for a change.

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A lot of these guys are

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young and they're already on medication,

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high blood pressure pills,

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high cholesterol.

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You know,

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their doctors already given them

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the warning that they're on

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a bad trajectory.

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So I like to step in from that prevention,

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you know,

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measures to let's make some changes.

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Let's get you off your

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medication and increase the

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quality and length of your

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life potentially.

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So you're talking about coping.

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I cannot tell you anything.

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I cannot recall the last

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time I heard the word coping.

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So what do you mean by coping?

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Well,

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coping means something different to

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everybody, whether it's overworking,

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whether it's over drinking, social media,

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right, overindulging on social media.

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You know,

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even to the fact how many people

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have more of a victim mentality, right?

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Life is happening to you and

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it's hard just to get out

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of that negative loop.

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So from a coping standpoint,

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it's being able to have

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more of a stoic approach in

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life and just be able to

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better balance your

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emotions and find better outlets to

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to improve your mental, physical,

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emotional, and spiritual health.

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So you post daily on the Facebook.

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I see it all the time, right?

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Whether it's videos or sayings,

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I am not as religious or

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disciplined as you are.

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I'll go a couple of weeks good,

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and then a couple of weeks not so good,

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whatever.

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Or am I much more temperamental?

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Okay, use the word stoic.

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I keep hearing this word popping up,

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right?

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So let's talk about stoicism.

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Right.

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And and really, I mean,

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our audience are primarily

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junk rule operators.

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Definitely more lean,

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more males than females.

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Right.

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So what does that what does

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that mean to define that?

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Again,

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I know you like used to mean

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different things,

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but like the stoicism and I

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never really use the word stoicism or,

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you know, to be stoic.

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And yet I lean into what I

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interpret stoicism is.

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So explain that to our audience.

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Yeah.

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And knowing you for the last three years,

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I feel like you do live a stoic life,

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just the way that you talk

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and the way that you move.

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So for me, stoicism,

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I found this about five or

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six years ago when I was in a hard time.

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I just was not feeling

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fulfilled with my career,

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with my marriage, with everything.

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everything going on.

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And I just found stoicism to be so,

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so beneficial to me.

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And the best way I can say it is amor fati,

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to love one's fate,

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to understand that

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everything that happens in life,

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we can either, you know,

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bitch and complain and find a reason to,

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you know, to feel bad,

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or we can use it as a lesson.

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We can become stronger from it.

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We can grow from it.

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We can take a situation,

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whether we failed or not,

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and somehow find the good

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in it so that we understand

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that our time here on earth,

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we need to make the most of it, right?

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I mean, we could go tomorrow,

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so either we could be upset

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or we can make the most of our life,

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take control over the

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things that we can control

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and let go of the things that we cannot.

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Yeah,

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I Googled it because that's how I

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live life.

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And I like what you said.

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So the Google definition is

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the endurance of pain or

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hardship without the

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display of feelings and

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without complaint.

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So that's stoicism, right?

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Okay,

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so you're stoic and you stand there

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and you're really badass.

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I look at it that way.

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Right, right.

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I like what you said more

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because my mom has this.

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This is one of her things

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she says often is to have.

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I did Andy Wines Live right before this,

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and I was talking about battle cries.

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And one of her battle cries,

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and I didn't talk about it on the show,

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but now I think about it.

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She has it right on our barn.

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We have a barn in our family

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commune situation.

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But it says, have faith in your fate.

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Right.

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So it's similar, like let, let, let go,

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let God, right.

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All those things.

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Um, because I think a stoicism, I,

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when I did mass resiliency training,

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the army, um, we talked about how, right.

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You can be an egg or you can

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be a tennis ball, right?

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If you're an egg,

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you're hard on the inside.

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And yet when you drop,

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you're going to crack.

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However, when you're a tennis ball, right.

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You bounce back.

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And we read a poem.

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And of course,

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now I'm going to have to

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think about this poem.

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And it was like, uh, uh,

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It was that poem.

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Now I'm going to look it up

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because it can drive me nuts.

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But it's all about it.

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To me,

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I guess I look at stoicism maybe in

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a more negative light or

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always have because it's

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the second half of this

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definition of displays

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without feelings or without complaints.

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And I like what you said.

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It's really not right without complaint.

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Yeah.

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Like, hey.

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deal with it, right?

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My three-step methodology

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for life is very simple, right?

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Do the fucking thing,

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tell the fucking world, show the fuck up.

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And stoicism for me is show the fuck up,

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right?

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Despite the challenge, despite the pain,

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despite what comes at you,

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show up as who you are.

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And you're jumping into the

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entrepreneurial world.

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A lot of us here, the listeners,

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we've been in the

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entrepreneurial world and

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it comes down to

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controlling the situation

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versus the situation controlling us.

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Right.

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So this whole idea of without feelings,

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no lean into the feelings.

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And yet lean into the

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feelings in a way that

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you're going to get the best out of it.

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Right.

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Lean into it.

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Right.

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Lean into it.

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Like, Oh, like in the military,

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we have a very great saying

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embrace the suck.

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That is like our ultimate battle cry.

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Like someone's like, Oh, this sucks.

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You're like, yeah, it does embrace it.

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Like, right.

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Whether or not you knew what

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you were signing up for,

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Here we are, right?

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Embrace it.

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That's an option,

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and every other option sucks, right?

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Because complaining about it, bitching,

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that ain't going to get you anywhere.

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Exactly.

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Embrace the suck.

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I forgot about that.

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Taylor, we'll have to add that to somehow.

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I have to add that in post

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to my Annie Wines Live.

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Embrace the suck.

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How I went an entire 15

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minutes battle cry without

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saying embrace the suck.

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man this is driving me nuts

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like I'm I'm gonna have to

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look this up now I'm

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thinking serenity prayer

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are you familiar yeah oh

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yeah right so yeah hold on

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let me see if I can pull it

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out of my ass god grant me

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the serenity wisdom wisdom

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yeah the no serenity to to

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what understand the things

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I cannot control the wisdom

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to know the difference in the

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Now I'm going to have to Google this shit.

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You're close.

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I'm close.

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Serenity.

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I can't spell Serenity.

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Serenity Prayer.

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They used it a lot in...

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Don't they use that a lot in AA?

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Yeah, there it is.

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Exactly.

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That's exactly it.

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God, grab me the serenity,

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the things I cannot change,

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the courage to change the things I can,

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and the wisdom to know the difference.

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There we go.

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I've missed the whole courage thing,

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like the goddamn lion.

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And this is what I tell people,

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whether you're religious or not,

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this is such a great

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approach to life because we

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can't control what people do to us.

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We can't control the things

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that people say,

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but we can control how we react.

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Right.

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And there is a very delicate

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balance and understanding

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what is happening to us,

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what is happening for us

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and what we're going to do about it.

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And I like to really preach

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that so people take more

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control over their actions

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and their responses.

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You are literally speaking to my book.

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Have you read my book yet?

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I have not finished it, but I'm in it.

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I'm in multiple books right now.

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We'll say started it.

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No, because that's it, right?

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It is about responding to

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the situation versus

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reacting to the person.

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That is...

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Like that is it.

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That is the ultimate goal in life, right?

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And even in our industry in junk removal,

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it's like, oh, my competitor did this.

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Oh, the landfill did that.

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Oh, the customer did this.

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And it's like, all right,

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what are you going to do about it?

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Like we had a situation

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earlier today where a customer called.

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She's not in the state.

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she did not understand why

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her price was what it was.

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It actually went down,

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but it didn't go down as

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much as she thought it was

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going to go down because she kept saying,

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Oh, I spent all this time this weekend.

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And she was just going in

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circles and circles and circles.

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And I finally go, okay,

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what is your ideal outcome?

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Right.

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And I said like three or four times,

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you know,

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I just don't want to pay this much.

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Okay.

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Well, how much do you want to pay?

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Right.

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How much do you want to pay?

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Give me a number.

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Right.

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And it was $78 different

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than where we were at.

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And I'm like, okay.

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It went from 1603 to 1525.

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I go, okay.

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I said, for $78,

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we can be done with this

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conversation and you can feel validated?

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Yes.

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Okay.

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Let's do that then.

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Yeah.

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It was that simple.

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It's like, okay, let's do that.

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And instead of,

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I'm not changing my pricing structure.

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I'm not going to call and apologize.

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I'm not going to unload my

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truck and then take

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pictures and send you what

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I did and didn't take.

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Whatever all these things are,

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ultimately the customer

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didn't feel like they got

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their value for the work done.

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Sounds good.

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How valuable was it?

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And the number she pulled up

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was relatively arbitrary

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based off of some math she

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did in her head.

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And I go, sounds good.

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I was right there with Mike

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and we were on the speakerphone.

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I go, okay.

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So if I take $78 off this, I make it 15.

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And we were,

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I'm not gonna argue with you

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about how we got here.

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We did a timetable and she

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was not interested, right?

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Oh, okay.

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So we explained the process.

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We booked the job.

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We completed the job.

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We're billing you for the job.

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And now you're in a point

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where now you want to have

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a conversation about what, okay.

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And if $78 is the difference

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between being done and

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continuing this circle jerk, well,

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let's do it.

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$78 sounds like a really

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good use of my money, right?

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And we moved on.

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We see a lot in our industry as people,

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especially guys,

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they have no idea how to

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price their jobs.

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And so now they're just,

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they're constantly guessing.

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And they're allowing the customer like, oh,

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well, we're slow this week.

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Well, it's like, well,

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does your price change

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because you're slow?

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Or do you need to get better?

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Like, what does this ultimately look like?

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And that's the kind of stuff

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I see from a stoicism standpoint.

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That's where people get sideways.

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Sure.

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And you probably see that with a lot.

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I mean, I could even say that in my field.

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How do you know what your services are?

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what cost to apply to them

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for the value that you're

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adding to people.

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Also, I did find it.

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I've been sitting here for

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the last five minutes getting frustrated.

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I could not remember what

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poem we use in the military

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for mass resiliency training.

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And what I think of when I

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think of stoicism,

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and it's Invictus by

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William Ernst Henley.

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I'm pulling it up now.

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Out of the night covers me.

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Black is the pit from pole to pole.

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I think whatever gods may be

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for my unconquerable soul.

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I used to teach this quite a bit,

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Mass Resiliency Training,

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and I have to read this.

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I always struggle with the

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word unconquerable.

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Man, I'm still struggling.

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For my unconquerable soul.

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So when I think of stoicism, it's that,

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right?

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It is this standing at the gates of hell,

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right, with my, you know,

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bowed and not broken.

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It matters not how I straight the gate,

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how charged.

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No, man, I'm all over the damn place.

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I should just read the whole

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damn poem at this point.

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My head is bloody unbowed.

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So it's okay.

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Yeah.

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Shit happens.

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And yet I'm ready to take it on.

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And so that's,

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so we use this poem actually

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in resiliency training as a

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way of not being,

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because when you're so hard

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in that regard, you're,

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you're not resilient.

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And so finding that

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alignment where you can be

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stoic and that you carry

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yourself in such a manner.

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And yet you're also not so much, um,

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you're not so resistant to

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hearing what the market is

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saying around you or right.

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Responding to the situation

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around you when new data or

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information becomes available.

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So I guess that's where I

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struggle with the work that

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struggled with the word stoicism.

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Um,

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Because I also want to be in

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a place where I'm listening

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to those around me.

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I'm paying attention to

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what's going on in my life

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and those around me.

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And I want to lean into my

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feelings that serve me, right?

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I don't want to be so stoic.

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I refuse to be happy or so

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stoic that I refuse to be vulnerable,

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you know, or approachable,

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all those things.

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Yeah,

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it's interesting that you had more of

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a negative connotation to

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it because I absolutely

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contribute to what you just said.

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It's that life, we're human, right?

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Life is 50-50.

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Bad stuff is going to happen,

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but what are we going to do about it?

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How are we going to show up

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and respond when we are in

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the face of adversity?

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right?

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Like that to be is stoicism, right?

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To be resilient, to brush yourself up.

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You know,

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I was thinking about confidence

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and it's like,

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it's not just confidence to succeed.

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It's confidence that you're

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going to fail over and over

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again and still be okay.

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Like it's okay to fail, right?

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You got to learn,

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you got to learn something along the way.

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And unfortunately,

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failure is one of life's

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greatest lessons.

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Yeah.

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Fortunately,

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let's say fortunately failures, right?

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Sure.

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Yes.

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First attempt to learn.

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Let's not say it's unfortunate.

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I often joke here in our

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business and it's true.

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It's like, hey,

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let's fail at something new today.

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We're going to fail at something.

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Let's pick our cross.

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Instead of failing at the

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same shit we failed at yesterday,

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let's master that thing and

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let's fail at something new

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because it's a new mountaintop, right?

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It's that growth mindset.

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It's like,

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We hit a peak.

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Okay.

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Let's go hit another fucking peak.

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And we may stumble on the

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way up the fucking mountain.

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And it's like, okay, well, let's fail.

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Let's fail until we succeed.

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Let's keep, you know, fail, fail, you know,

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try, try, try again on bullshit.

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Right.

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And it's like, well, don't keep failing.

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Don't even try.

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Like keep failing and figure

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it the fuck out.

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Like that's the goal.

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Absolutely.

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Yes.

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Because growth and success

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happens outside your comfort zone.

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Right.

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So if you're not pushing yourself,

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then you're just too safe.

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So you're working with a lot

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of higher net or successful men.

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I want to clear that up.

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Like you and I have talked about that,

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right?

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Typically your clients are

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successful and yet they want more.

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They're not right.

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Like, so like I gotta go to,

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I'm very honest about this.

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I go to counseling every other Monday.

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I went this morning at 11 AM and like,

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that's my baseline for success, right?

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With my counseling.

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And then I also have a

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business coach and other

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people I associate with

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where it's like beyond baseline, right?

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Because often what I've seen is people,

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myself included,

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it's like I was I was like, well,

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I'm good enough.

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Like and so I was resistant

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to having a coach or

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resistant to having consultants.

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So I'm like, well, I'm doing all right.

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I'm doing pretty good, you know.

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And so what is it?

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Why?

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Why is it these men are coming to you?

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Right.

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That want next level.

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And what are you providing

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them that that is also

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could be achieved by other

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people in our audience?

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Yeah.

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Well, it's interesting.

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And I like how you said

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initially there was some

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hesitation to that because

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you'll see people almost

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thinking as a failure,

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like I need a life coach or

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I need a health coach.

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Something's wrong versus I look at it.

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I mean, I have four coaches myself.

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I look at it as that

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achieving that next level.

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How can I get there without

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having to try to do it on my own?

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which often when you have a coach,

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you have that accountability partner.

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You have somebody showing you the way.

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You have somebody picking

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you up right on the hardest

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days when you do fall and you're like,

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fuck this.

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And it's just being able to

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get there faster.

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right like you get to

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celebrate and you also get

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to work through the

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challenges as you level up

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because what's that saying

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new level new devil right

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the more you level up in

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life the more you're gonna

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have to figure out and not

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just about the world but

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mostly about yourself right

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what do you value what is

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important to you are your

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day-to-day actions aligning

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with what you believe is important

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You know, your legacy,

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what do you want to be known as?

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And are you living that every day?

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And so what are the challenges?

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Like, so you work with men only.

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What are the challenges that

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men are having that you're

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helping them overcome?

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Because they have a desire

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where they want to be.

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Yeah.

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They're not getting there on their own.

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But what is it about what

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you do allows them to, you know,

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be transformative?

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Yeah.

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Yeah, so honestly,

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I think it comes down to confidence.

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I think it comes down to, you know,

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a lot of them actually have

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some past traumas.

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A lot of times it's like a

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father-type figure

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relationship that was less than ideal.

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And it's almost the fear.

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You know, man, woman, we all are human,

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so we all have our fears.

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And it's just that fear and

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understanding of...

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putting of just doing it,

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just doing the thing.

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Maybe it's the highest

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societal expectations,

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the social norms of mental health, right?

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There's a lot of stress and

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anxiety that I just think

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not all men are able to

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safely talk to their friends,

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to their significant others, gosh,

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to their bosses.

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I mean,

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you can't go in there and be vulnerable,

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right?

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Like you have to pretend you

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have it all together.

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even though you may be struggling,

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you may be sleeping awful, you know,

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your diet's not so good.

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A lot of these guys I find

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are over caffeinated,

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like 1500 milligrams of caffeine a day,

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you know, um,

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They, they may be drinking a lot.

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They may be having, you know,

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their relationships aren't the best.

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They're just unfulfilled.

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You know,

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they're just unfulfilled and they

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need somebody to just help

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clear through some of that

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garbage and really get back

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on track to what it is important.

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And how do you do it?

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How, how, how is it like,

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so coaches everywhere, right?

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So what makes you unique?

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Yes,

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I have what's called the walk with me

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method.

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I find that pulling, you know,

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the traditional talk

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therapy is wonderful.

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But for me,

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I like to be physically active.

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So my sessions with with the

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guys that I work with.

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We're on the golf course.

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We're disc golfing.

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We're running stairs at Bradford Beach.

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We're just walking the trails.

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We're doing active things,

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which just naturally

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increases the cortisol in the body.

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It helps strategize and

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clearly think and process

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and just work through those

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deep emotions that otherwise get buried.

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They just get recessed.

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So I guess my strategy is

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just getting guys moving,

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just gets the habit

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established and it creates

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the safe environment.

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We're both looking forward.

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It's not that face to face all the time.

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And we're just trying to get

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to that next level,

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whatever it is to take.

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And then what I offer is not

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just our sessions,

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it's the in-between support.

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So I do a lot for my guys.

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I'm available 24 seven,

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which is my own balance issues.

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But most of life happens

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outside of our sessions, right?

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You get into a fight.

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You're in a bad situation.

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Your headspace is not right.

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And you need someone to be there.

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to say, what should I do in this moment?

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Or even someone to celebrate.

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I give a lot of attaboys

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because I'll get people who are like,

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guess what?

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I ran two miles today and

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only stopped once.

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Or, hey,

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I've lifted the last five days now.

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You know, my caffeine's down.

00:24:01.888 --> 00:24:03.390
I'm eating protein like you

00:24:03.410 --> 00:24:04.030
wouldn't believe.

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And that's where they just

00:24:05.491 --> 00:24:07.032
need someone to be like, yes,

00:24:07.613 --> 00:24:08.554
like you're doing it.

00:24:08.574 --> 00:24:09.694
You're crushing it, man.

00:24:10.134 --> 00:24:10.634
Keep it up.

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So is it more mental or physical then?

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Both.

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I call it the triad.

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It's mental, it's emotional,

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and it's physical.

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And when you move your body,

00:24:23.196 --> 00:24:24.917
you are literally doing all three.

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Yeah.

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And you only work with men.

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Why is that?

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Men in the beginning,

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just so I've been doing

00:24:34.519 --> 00:24:35.640
this about two years now,

00:24:35.901 --> 00:24:37.481
just started coming out a

00:24:37.801 --> 00:24:39.624
year ago that I'm actually a coach,

00:24:39.663 --> 00:24:41.345
started my online presence

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because I was off of social

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media for seven plus years.

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And men just raise their hand.

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I'm a boy mom.

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My best friends have always been guys.

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I don't know.

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It's just something about me and men.

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And

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And I love guys.

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I love working with them.

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I was a mechanic for four years.

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I just always wanted to be with the guys.

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You were a mechanic?

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I didn't know this.

00:25:06.487 --> 00:25:07.106
Yeah, yeah.

00:25:07.268 --> 00:25:08.489
That was my high school job

00:25:08.548 --> 00:25:12.943
from 16 to almost 21.

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What kind of mechanic were you?

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My dad, he owns a business in Milwaukee.

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So he was my boss.

00:25:19.567 --> 00:25:21.028
I graduated high school early,

00:25:21.087 --> 00:25:22.209
worked for him full time,

00:25:22.648 --> 00:25:23.729
saved a whole bunch of money.

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And that's how I really

00:25:25.029 --> 00:25:26.671
kickstarted my life, to be honest.

00:25:27.391 --> 00:25:28.652
And being a single woman,

00:25:28.711 --> 00:25:30.893
I own a house that I do all

00:25:30.913 --> 00:25:31.972
my own renovations.

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I've renovated my kitchen

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and just everything.

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And I attribute that to

00:25:38.096 --> 00:25:39.696
understanding the mechanics, right?

00:25:39.737 --> 00:25:41.357
When you understand how something works,

00:25:41.857 --> 00:25:43.359
it usually applies to other

00:25:43.460 --> 00:25:44.240
aspects of life.

00:25:45.602 --> 00:25:45.701
Yeah,

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I was a carpenter for years and I am

00:25:47.343 --> 00:25:50.385
a really average handyman now.

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I was hanging pictures last week.

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Like I'm pretty, pretty...

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Oh, right, and hang a picture.

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Oh, yeah, no, like, because I, you know,

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read the tape measure, do math.

00:26:01.061 --> 00:26:02.682
I can fucking math like a mofo.

00:26:03.262 --> 00:26:04.944
Nail in wall, hang picture.

00:26:04.984 --> 00:26:05.704
Like, good.

00:26:07.686 --> 00:26:08.627
I was a carpenter long

00:26:08.667 --> 00:26:09.307
enough to know that I

00:26:09.347 --> 00:26:09.808
wasn't going to be a

00:26:09.828 --> 00:26:10.929
carpenter long enough, right?

00:26:10.949 --> 00:26:12.951
Like, I was never, like,

00:26:12.971 --> 00:26:14.051
my father's a carpenter.

00:26:14.071 --> 00:26:15.472
He understands structural engineering.

00:26:15.873 --> 00:26:17.515
Both my brothers worked in

00:26:17.535 --> 00:26:18.315
my dad's business.

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And you put myself and my

00:26:20.936 --> 00:26:22.218
dad and my two brothers in a room,

00:26:22.298 --> 00:26:23.900
and I am the worst carpenter in the room.

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I know who I am.

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Also,

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you put me in a room with three other

00:26:28.222 --> 00:26:28.343
guys.

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I'm also the worst guy in junk removal.

00:26:31.025 --> 00:26:33.366
My dad and my two brothers

00:26:33.626 --> 00:26:35.088
are significantly better

00:26:35.148 --> 00:26:37.089
than me at the physical art

00:26:37.170 --> 00:26:38.371
of moving and lifting and

00:26:38.411 --> 00:26:39.471
carrying and stacking and

00:26:39.811 --> 00:26:40.792
packing and all those things.

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I've always been the sit back,

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let me do the logistics.

00:26:47.144 --> 00:26:49.286
Let me do the thinking part.

00:26:49.405 --> 00:26:50.705
That's your skill, right?

00:26:51.445 --> 00:26:54.247
Oh, yeah.

00:26:54.487 --> 00:26:56.267
I took small engines in high school,

00:26:56.946 --> 00:26:57.827
and I basically fucked

00:26:57.867 --> 00:26:58.847
around the entire time.

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I'd probably get a D. I understand.

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On a piece of paper,

00:27:03.868 --> 00:27:05.970
I understand how a small engine works.

00:27:06.210 --> 00:27:07.150
Combustion, got it.

00:27:07.950 --> 00:27:09.171
in practicality like when a

00:27:09.230 --> 00:27:10.112
car drives by you're like

00:27:10.152 --> 00:27:10.832
oh that sounds like shit

00:27:10.852 --> 00:27:11.913
and someone's like oh the

00:27:11.932 --> 00:27:12.853
timing belt is off I'm like

00:27:12.874 --> 00:27:14.013
yeah timing belt's off sure

00:27:14.634 --> 00:27:17.376
right right yeah yeah I

00:27:17.396 --> 00:27:17.997
don't know it's fucking

00:27:18.057 --> 00:27:19.038
loud like that sounded like

00:27:19.097 --> 00:27:21.219
shit or like old carbureted

00:27:21.298 --> 00:27:22.119
engines my dad's like oh

00:27:22.140 --> 00:27:22.980
it's getting too much fuel

00:27:23.000 --> 00:27:24.121
I'm like yeah it's getting

00:27:24.141 --> 00:27:25.362
too much fuel right even

00:27:25.382 --> 00:27:26.323
tractors like I can hop on

00:27:26.343 --> 00:27:28.825
a tractor and run it um I'm

00:27:28.845 --> 00:27:29.605
like oh it's driving like

00:27:29.664 --> 00:27:30.586
shit like that's pretty

00:27:30.605 --> 00:27:31.286
much like that is the

00:27:31.326 --> 00:27:33.567
extent of how I diagnose things um

00:27:35.595 --> 00:27:37.375
Now, once the tractor is good,

00:27:37.536 --> 00:27:38.115
I live on a farm.

00:27:38.135 --> 00:27:40.037
So I didn't this year.

00:27:40.057 --> 00:27:40.877
The last two years, though,

00:27:40.917 --> 00:27:41.718
I spent a lot of time on

00:27:41.738 --> 00:27:44.079
the tractor just

00:27:44.480 --> 00:27:45.519
cultivating the land in

00:27:45.560 --> 00:27:46.760
spring and even in the summer.

00:27:47.340 --> 00:27:48.241
And so I could tell when the

00:27:48.281 --> 00:27:49.722
tractor was bogged down or

00:27:49.762 --> 00:27:50.623
not doing right or maybe it

00:27:50.643 --> 00:27:51.544
was a bad batch of fuel or

00:27:51.564 --> 00:27:52.723
something like that.

00:27:52.924 --> 00:27:53.904
Beyond that, I'm like,

00:27:54.085 --> 00:27:55.346
let me operate the fucking machine.

00:27:55.445 --> 00:27:56.686
Like, that's where I'm good at.

00:27:57.227 --> 00:27:58.407
I also drove a truck in Iraq.

00:27:58.428 --> 00:27:59.748
So I'm like, I don't know.

00:27:59.768 --> 00:28:00.469
My truck's fucked up.

00:28:00.509 --> 00:28:01.368
It's like, give me a different truck.

00:28:01.388 --> 00:28:02.289
Have the mechanics fix it.

00:28:02.329 --> 00:28:02.509
That's...

00:28:04.317 --> 00:28:06.117
Even now, I drive a Jeep.

00:28:06.759 --> 00:28:08.159
We have a bunch of trucks.

00:28:08.598 --> 00:28:10.638
I still have no idea how DEF works.

00:28:10.679 --> 00:28:11.500
People have explained to me

00:28:11.519 --> 00:28:12.720
with diesel and DEF, and I'm like,

00:28:12.740 --> 00:28:13.099
whatever.

00:28:13.140 --> 00:28:14.740
We need DEF.

00:28:14.759 --> 00:28:15.400
We don't need DEF.

00:28:15.420 --> 00:28:16.201
We need more DEF.

00:28:16.221 --> 00:28:16.820
We need DEF.

00:28:17.080 --> 00:28:18.621
Sure.

00:28:18.961 --> 00:28:20.461
I will Google it and or just be like,

00:28:20.501 --> 00:28:21.781
mechanic person, tell me what to do.

00:28:23.582 --> 00:28:24.942
I can change my own windshield wipers.

00:28:25.123 --> 00:28:25.742
I can do that.

00:28:28.123 --> 00:28:29.344
I have changed my own oil,

00:28:29.443 --> 00:28:30.903
and then I realized years ago, like,

00:28:31.655 --> 00:28:32.176
It's whatever.

00:28:32.237 --> 00:28:33.559
Oh my God.

00:28:33.599 --> 00:28:34.442
It's 20 bucks to do it

00:28:34.461 --> 00:28:35.763
yourself or 30 to drive in.

00:28:36.065 --> 00:28:37.728
Like I'm not, I don't need,

00:28:37.768 --> 00:28:38.368
you don't need to put your

00:28:38.390 --> 00:28:39.592
pants on to go get oil change.

00:28:39.612 --> 00:28:40.753
Like I'm going to go there

00:28:40.794 --> 00:28:42.076
and flip flops and shorts and be like,

00:28:42.096 --> 00:28:43.098
Hey, can you, yep.

00:28:43.159 --> 00:28:43.338
Good.

00:28:44.508 --> 00:28:45.167
I will sit here and watch

00:28:45.188 --> 00:28:46.368
YouTube videos for the next 10 minutes,

00:28:47.028 --> 00:28:47.909
and then you will charge me.

00:28:48.409 --> 00:28:48.669
Actually,

00:28:48.749 --> 00:28:50.029
I'm also the guy that I wait

00:28:50.049 --> 00:28:51.349
until I'm on a windshield wiper fluid,

00:28:51.609 --> 00:28:52.529
and then I go get my oil

00:28:52.549 --> 00:28:54.111
changed because I'm too lazy to go.

00:28:54.351 --> 00:28:56.050
I'm like, oh, fuck.

00:28:56.070 --> 00:28:56.632
This winter,

00:28:56.912 --> 00:28:57.652
it was like two or three days

00:28:57.711 --> 00:28:59.051
in a row of snow, and it was like, oh,

00:28:59.071 --> 00:28:59.251
fuck.

00:28:59.291 --> 00:29:00.032
I can't see for shit.

00:29:00.432 --> 00:29:01.532
And so there's an oil change place.

00:29:01.593 --> 00:29:03.093
I go, all right, I got 15 minutes.

00:29:03.394 --> 00:29:04.134
So I finally got...

00:29:05.167 --> 00:29:05.548
And they're like,

00:29:06.028 --> 00:29:06.689
your windshield wiper

00:29:07.148 --> 00:29:08.009
reservoir is bone dry.

00:29:08.029 --> 00:29:11.131
I'm like, yeah, why do you think I'm here?

00:29:11.151 --> 00:29:12.372
I'm 2,000 miles past my oil change.

00:29:12.571 --> 00:29:13.452
That ship sailed, honey.

00:29:13.492 --> 00:29:15.594
Let's not point fingers.

00:29:16.413 --> 00:29:17.414
Also,

00:29:17.494 --> 00:29:19.276
I buy the expensive-ass synthetic

00:29:19.536 --> 00:29:20.195
because I want to go as

00:29:20.296 --> 00:29:21.817
long as possible before my

00:29:21.836 --> 00:29:22.518
next oil change.

00:29:23.117 --> 00:29:25.259
Actually, I got gas this week,

00:29:25.519 --> 00:29:26.559
this last week, and I was at, like,

00:29:26.599 --> 00:29:27.200
a quarter tank.

00:29:27.599 --> 00:29:28.880
So, like, I adulted.

00:29:28.900 --> 00:29:30.840
Because normally it's got to be beeping.

00:29:31.181 --> 00:29:31.862
It's got to be, like,

00:29:31.882 --> 00:29:32.801
beeping and screaming.

00:29:33.122 --> 00:29:33.281
Like,

00:29:33.501 --> 00:29:34.942
I know it can be beeping on me when I

00:29:34.982 --> 00:29:35.423
leave work.

00:29:35.803 --> 00:29:37.763
I can go home, go to volleyball,

00:29:38.003 --> 00:29:39.644
go back home, make it work,

00:29:39.884 --> 00:29:41.066
and I still got probably

00:29:41.125 --> 00:29:42.205
close to a gallon-ish.

00:29:42.465 --> 00:29:42.945
Oh, my gosh.

00:29:42.965 --> 00:29:44.747
Because if I do that, I'll put, like,

00:29:44.747 --> 00:29:45.426
19.3 in a 20-gallon tank.

00:29:45.446 --> 00:29:45.586
Like, I...

00:29:49.768 --> 00:29:50.608
I ride shit.

00:29:50.788 --> 00:29:51.989
You know, I also live my life.

00:29:52.048 --> 00:29:54.250
Like I have historically, I used to,

00:29:54.329 --> 00:29:55.191
here we'll use some fucking

00:29:56.030 --> 00:29:57.051
empowering language.

00:29:57.491 --> 00:29:59.353
I used to live my life like that.

00:29:59.932 --> 00:30:02.914
And now I listen to my body

00:30:03.075 --> 00:30:05.375
and schedule physical

00:30:05.395 --> 00:30:07.977
activity and time to rest and digest.

00:30:09.438 --> 00:30:11.019
I also listen to pink noise at night.

00:30:12.278 --> 00:30:13.900
I have automatic blinds and

00:30:13.940 --> 00:30:14.779
I set my bedtime.

00:30:15.240 --> 00:30:15.580
So like,

00:30:16.532 --> 00:30:17.574
I'm adulting hard.

00:30:17.934 --> 00:30:19.336
I'm, I'm adulting hard as shit.

00:30:19.676 --> 00:30:20.857
I go to the gym two days a week.

00:30:20.877 --> 00:30:21.960
I play volleyball two days a week.

00:30:22.359 --> 00:30:23.642
And it took me years.

00:30:23.682 --> 00:30:24.462
Like I'm 40 now.

00:30:24.762 --> 00:30:25.943
It took me to like, I was 38 before.

00:30:25.983 --> 00:30:26.865
I'm like, all right,

00:30:27.185 --> 00:30:28.146
I should probably adult.

00:30:28.606 --> 00:30:29.808
Like, yes,

00:30:30.189 --> 00:30:31.691
I would go to gyms or have gym

00:30:31.730 --> 00:30:32.192
memberships.

00:30:32.231 --> 00:30:34.714
And I would like three to four weeks max.

00:30:35.015 --> 00:30:35.455
Like I'm,

00:30:37.424 --> 00:30:39.906
I was very inconsistent.

00:30:41.928 --> 00:30:43.949
Now I realize that the more

00:30:44.028 --> 00:30:46.089
work I do outside of work, eating right,

00:30:46.690 --> 00:30:48.151
getting my steps in,

00:30:49.092 --> 00:30:50.172
not like I'm going to go for a walk,

00:30:50.393 --> 00:30:52.134
more like being up and active around,

00:30:53.314 --> 00:30:54.214
going to play volleyball at

00:30:54.234 --> 00:30:55.015
the beach on the weekend,

00:30:55.075 --> 00:30:56.576
getting sunshine, all that shit,

00:30:57.916 --> 00:30:59.357
I work less hours and get

00:30:59.397 --> 00:31:00.458
more shit done during the week.

00:31:02.358 --> 00:31:02.740
Otherwise,

00:31:02.779 --> 00:31:04.800
I'm at work constantly chasing dopamine

00:31:05.500 --> 00:31:07.201
Because I'm not energized, you know?

00:31:07.221 --> 00:31:07.281
Yes.

00:31:08.482 --> 00:31:09.522
And also, for the record,

00:31:09.542 --> 00:31:13.585
I have one cup of regular coffee a day.

00:31:13.884 --> 00:31:16.406
And then everything else is decaf.

00:31:16.926 --> 00:31:18.627
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00:31:19.067 --> 00:31:20.628
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00:31:22.990 --> 00:31:24.789
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00:31:24.829 --> 00:31:25.250
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00:31:25.411 --> 00:31:26.651
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00:31:26.671 --> 00:31:27.770
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00:31:28.151 --> 00:31:29.432
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00:31:29.491 --> 00:31:30.652
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00:31:30.771 --> 00:31:32.711
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00:31:32.751 --> 00:31:33.292
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There we go.

00:31:35.573 --> 00:31:36.512
Those are my radio days.

00:31:36.532 --> 00:31:37.673
A little 15-second call.

00:31:37.713 --> 00:31:38.114
No big deal.

00:31:38.134 --> 00:31:38.534
Pretty good.

00:31:38.614 --> 00:31:40.013
As I'm drinking my decaf coffee.

00:31:41.835 --> 00:31:42.974
Taylor, our producer,

00:31:43.315 --> 00:31:44.375
he's a business owner of

00:31:44.434 --> 00:31:45.134
sorts and things.

00:31:45.174 --> 00:31:45.395
He said,

00:31:45.415 --> 00:31:46.355
what are some common struggles

00:31:46.375 --> 00:31:47.476
you've noticed with

00:31:47.635 --> 00:31:48.336
business owners in

00:31:48.375 --> 00:31:49.916
particular that you've seen

00:31:49.957 --> 00:31:51.176
them overcoming with coaching?

00:31:54.044 --> 00:31:54.864
Uh, let's see.

00:31:54.884 --> 00:31:56.105
Are you talking to you or me?

00:31:56.585 --> 00:31:57.085
I'm talking to you.

00:31:57.105 --> 00:31:58.164
I don't have that answer.

00:31:58.184 --> 00:32:01.945
You're the one coaching dudes.

00:32:02.105 --> 00:32:03.346
Episode 91.

00:32:03.386 --> 00:32:03.967
Thank you, Taylor.

00:32:04.166 --> 00:32:04.987
Taylor's in the background

00:32:05.007 --> 00:32:06.367
doing research the entire time.

00:32:06.748 --> 00:32:08.667
So that was 23 episodes ago.

00:32:08.688 --> 00:32:10.509
It was like six months ago.

00:32:10.548 --> 00:32:10.848
There we go.

00:32:10.888 --> 00:32:11.449
I was pretty close.

00:32:12.961 --> 00:32:15.443
So, Taylor, can I spin that question?

00:32:15.463 --> 00:32:16.065
Because actually,

00:32:16.085 --> 00:32:17.665
I personally don't work

00:32:17.705 --> 00:32:19.548
with business owners at this point.

00:32:20.048 --> 00:32:21.108
Interesting enough, though,

00:32:21.309 --> 00:32:23.111
a lot of the guys I work with,

00:32:23.431 --> 00:32:25.093
within the first three to six months,

00:32:25.133 --> 00:32:26.034
they change careers.

00:32:26.856 --> 00:32:28.438
Which I think is fascinating

00:32:28.557 --> 00:32:32.080
because a lot of them through our work,

00:32:32.421 --> 00:32:34.201
they realize they hate their job.

00:32:34.522 --> 00:32:35.563
They absolutely hate it.

00:32:35.864 --> 00:32:36.963
They're unhappy.

00:32:37.305 --> 00:32:39.566
And usually I ask them, well,

00:32:39.826 --> 00:32:40.807
why are you still there?

00:32:40.886 --> 00:32:41.948
What's stopping you from

00:32:42.008 --> 00:32:42.909
doing something different?

00:32:43.509 --> 00:32:44.769
And the answer often is,

00:32:45.210 --> 00:32:45.830
I don't even know.

00:32:46.490 --> 00:32:47.392
Let's look.

00:32:47.571 --> 00:32:48.692
Let's find something else

00:32:49.373 --> 00:32:50.314
that aligns better.

00:32:50.334 --> 00:32:54.057
So they settle for the mediocrity of...

00:32:56.839 --> 00:33:00.121
Well, you nailed it on the head, Andy,

00:33:00.161 --> 00:33:01.681
because so many guys I feel

00:33:01.701 --> 00:33:02.540
like are like you,

00:33:03.182 --> 00:33:05.481
especially when you're in your 20s.

00:33:05.541 --> 00:33:06.402
Didn't you think you could

00:33:06.461 --> 00:33:07.823
bounce back so quick?

00:33:08.143 --> 00:33:09.083
I could.

00:33:09.282 --> 00:33:11.243
I wasn't even thinking.

00:33:11.344 --> 00:33:11.824
I could.

00:33:13.364 --> 00:33:14.704
I remember bartending.

00:33:14.865 --> 00:33:15.704
I would bartend.

00:33:16.384 --> 00:33:18.047
till 2.30, 3 o'clock in the morning.

00:33:18.487 --> 00:33:20.528
I would get home, shit shower, shave,

00:33:20.788 --> 00:33:22.351
be in bed at 4.

00:33:22.351 --> 00:33:23.902
I'd be backed up at 5.15,

00:33:23.902 --> 00:33:27.194
5.30 so I could go play Army for the day.

00:33:28.020 --> 00:33:29.161
And I would fucking go hard

00:33:29.201 --> 00:33:30.402
at the Army all day Saturday.

00:33:30.862 --> 00:33:33.041
And I was running on pure fumes.

00:33:33.321 --> 00:33:34.903
And I'd go hard until like 1630.

00:33:35.042 --> 00:33:36.482
I'd go eat dinner.

00:33:36.542 --> 00:33:37.523
And I'd be in bed.

00:33:38.344 --> 00:33:39.564
And I'd catch like a second wind.

00:33:39.624 --> 00:33:41.065
I'd go to the bar again with the guys.

00:33:41.424 --> 00:33:43.805
And I'd be in bed at like 10, 11,

00:33:43.805 --> 00:33:45.286
back up at 6 the next morning.

00:33:45.885 --> 00:33:47.185
And by Sunday, I'm like, all right,

00:33:47.266 --> 00:33:47.886
now I should probably go to

00:33:47.906 --> 00:33:48.707
bed early on Sunday.

00:33:48.967 --> 00:33:50.106
And Monday morning, I'm back in.

00:33:50.326 --> 00:33:51.667
Like I could function like

00:33:51.807 --> 00:33:53.307
hair on fire with an hour,

00:33:53.347 --> 00:33:54.268
hour and a half of sleep.

00:33:55.008 --> 00:33:56.169
And now I'm like, ooh.

00:33:57.710 --> 00:33:58.611
I went to bed after midnight

00:33:58.711 --> 00:33:59.632
and everything hurts.

00:34:00.554 --> 00:34:01.494
Exactly.

00:34:01.694 --> 00:34:03.237
So yeah, it wasn't I thought I could.

00:34:03.738 --> 00:34:04.478
I absolutely could.

00:34:04.778 --> 00:34:05.700
I went hard.

00:34:06.079 --> 00:34:06.800
I went hard until 35.

00:34:07.082 --> 00:34:10.306
35 is when I was like, oh, fuck.

00:34:10.746 --> 00:34:11.186
Like, I'm...

00:34:12.228 --> 00:34:13.949
And now every year since has been like,

00:34:14.070 --> 00:34:16.092
oh shit, everything takes longer.

00:34:16.112 --> 00:34:17.393
I feel heavier.

00:34:17.813 --> 00:34:20.536
The problem for me is at 40,

00:34:20.536 --> 00:34:22.416
I still look at myself as a fucking kid.

00:34:22.838 --> 00:34:25.019
Like I am a man child.

00:34:25.380 --> 00:34:27.561
I, I like, I remember my dad was 40.

00:34:27.822 --> 00:34:28.722
Like he was old as shit.

00:34:28.983 --> 00:34:29.123
Right.

00:34:29.143 --> 00:34:30.264
That was like over the hill.

00:34:30.284 --> 00:34:31.385
Yeah.

00:34:31.445 --> 00:34:32.286
Now at 40, like,

00:34:32.425 --> 00:34:33.387
I don't know what age you

00:34:33.427 --> 00:34:34.228
decide you're an adult.

00:34:35.563 --> 00:34:36.182
I'm not there.

00:34:36.722 --> 00:34:37.963
Like I'm not even close to there.

00:34:37.983 --> 00:34:40.143
I have no desire to get there.

00:34:40.483 --> 00:34:41.965
Like I always anticipate

00:34:42.844 --> 00:34:43.965
looking to myself as youthful.

00:34:44.806 --> 00:34:46.885
Um, now my body will disagree.

00:34:46.985 --> 00:34:48.405
That's why my fingers hurt

00:34:48.567 --> 00:34:49.447
from playing volleyball and

00:34:49.467 --> 00:34:51.726
my knees hurt from running.

00:34:51.746 --> 00:34:54.467
Um, yeah, that's,

00:34:54.907 --> 00:34:56.528
that's where prevention is key.

00:34:56.929 --> 00:34:58.688
You know, when we enter our thirties,

00:34:58.849 --> 00:35:01.409
it's an uphill battle, you know,

00:35:01.429 --> 00:35:02.289
our muscle mass,

00:35:02.329 --> 00:35:03.971
you lose three to 8% every decade.

00:35:05.387 --> 00:35:05.666
You know,

00:35:05.706 --> 00:35:07.628
you I have a harder time bouncing

00:35:07.668 --> 00:35:09.568
back here from bad diets

00:35:09.648 --> 00:35:10.570
and lack of sleep.

00:35:10.610 --> 00:35:12.130
Your arteries are hardening.

00:35:12.190 --> 00:35:14.831
You're getting your body is changing.

00:35:14.851 --> 00:35:16.492
And that's where I try to

00:35:16.552 --> 00:35:18.954
catch guys in the 30s, 40s and 50s.

00:35:18.974 --> 00:35:20.974
Because if you can make a shift now,

00:35:21.416 --> 00:35:24.226
you're going to have a solid 60, 70, 80,

00:35:24.226 --> 00:35:24.697
90.

00:35:24.697 --> 00:35:25.597
And my goal is always 100.

00:35:26.538 --> 00:35:26.697
Like,

00:35:26.777 --> 00:35:29.119
let's get to 100 and be able to still

00:35:29.239 --> 00:35:31.561
travel, carry your own groceries forever.

00:35:31.840 --> 00:35:32.922
Wipe your own bottom.

00:35:33.282 --> 00:35:34.483
Like these are things that

00:35:34.523 --> 00:35:35.545
people don't always think

00:35:35.605 --> 00:35:36.706
about because we live in

00:35:36.766 --> 00:35:37.608
such an immediate

00:35:37.648 --> 00:35:39.630
gratification world when

00:35:39.670 --> 00:35:41.532
it's like if we do these

00:35:41.572 --> 00:35:42.612
little shifts now,

00:35:42.632 --> 00:35:44.896
we're set for later in life.

00:35:45.969 --> 00:35:46.831
Yeah, I've noticed that.

00:35:46.990 --> 00:35:47.811
When I go to the gym now,

00:35:47.871 --> 00:35:49.112
it's not about making gains.

00:35:49.193 --> 00:35:50.152
It's about sustaining.

00:35:50.653 --> 00:35:51.313
It's about being able to

00:35:51.434 --> 00:35:53.396
push the same weight or

00:35:53.456 --> 00:35:55.536
maybe incremental gains,

00:35:56.217 --> 00:35:57.938
not huge trajectory.

00:35:58.280 --> 00:35:59.780
Actually, there's a leg machine.

00:36:00.121 --> 00:36:01.362
My goal is to max it out.

00:36:02.063 --> 00:36:02.623
It goes up to 250 pounds.

00:36:02.643 --> 00:36:02.762
I'm at...

00:36:02.762 --> 00:36:06.945
235 plus the 10 I think

00:36:06.985 --> 00:36:08.186
right now so I'm at 245

00:36:08.186 --> 00:36:09.847
pounds and like every week

00:36:09.887 --> 00:36:10.768
I was gaining like I was

00:36:11.088 --> 00:36:12.110
adding like five pounds

00:36:12.130 --> 00:36:13.190
like every other week by

00:36:13.210 --> 00:36:14.630
doing this machine and last

00:36:14.670 --> 00:36:15.231
week I was doing the

00:36:15.271 --> 00:36:16.793
machine I can see it I got

00:36:16.952 --> 00:36:18.032
one fucking plate left it's

00:36:18.052 --> 00:36:19.773
totally mental I want to

00:36:19.813 --> 00:36:20.755
max out that one machine

00:36:21.155 --> 00:36:22.856
and now I'm like oh it's

00:36:22.896 --> 00:36:24.097
fucking heavy now like I

00:36:24.117 --> 00:36:24.797
haven't told my trainer

00:36:24.838 --> 00:36:26.458
like oh it's fucking heavy

00:36:26.619 --> 00:36:27.559
like up until this point

00:36:27.599 --> 00:36:28.559
I'm like I got this I'll

00:36:28.579 --> 00:36:30.101
push it no big deal and now

00:36:30.121 --> 00:36:30.842
last week I was like

00:36:31.521 --> 00:36:33.083
Ooh, that was heavy this week.

00:36:33.603 --> 00:36:33.842
Right.

00:36:34.264 --> 00:36:35.784
Um, but all the other machines,

00:36:35.824 --> 00:36:36.905
my goal is cause I hit

00:36:36.945 --> 00:36:37.865
personal best at different times.

00:36:38.065 --> 00:36:39.586
I had a personal best the other day on the,

00:36:39.746 --> 00:36:42.387
uh, the overhead press.

00:36:42.728 --> 00:36:43.369
Cause I had a fucked up

00:36:43.389 --> 00:36:44.168
shoulder for the longest time.

00:36:44.188 --> 00:36:45.289
My shoulder still bothered me a bit,

00:36:45.550 --> 00:36:47.710
but I hit a personal best and it was like,

00:36:48.512 --> 00:36:50.032
I think I started like 61 points.

00:36:50.072 --> 00:36:50.713
Everything's on a point

00:36:50.733 --> 00:36:53.494
system and I'm up to like 109.

00:36:53.494 --> 00:36:53.655
Right.

00:36:53.675 --> 00:36:54.815
It took two years.

00:36:55.315 --> 00:36:56.876
I hadn't even doubled where I started.

00:36:57.197 --> 00:36:58.516
And yet I hit like 111 the other day.

00:36:58.536 --> 00:36:58.876
I was like,

00:37:00.472 --> 00:37:00.931
no big deal.

00:37:02.454 --> 00:37:03.934
I've gained a point or two a

00:37:03.994 --> 00:37:05.115
week for two fucking years.

00:37:05.456 --> 00:37:06.056
This is not

00:37:07.867 --> 00:37:09.827
but slow and steady wins the

00:37:09.847 --> 00:37:11.449
race yeah and that's the

00:37:11.469 --> 00:37:12.349
same thing with my knees my

00:37:12.409 --> 00:37:13.391
knees for the longest time

00:37:13.431 --> 00:37:14.291
I played volleyball no

00:37:14.331 --> 00:37:15.211
issues and I tore my

00:37:15.231 --> 00:37:17.273
meniscus and then I went to

00:37:17.293 --> 00:37:18.153
the pt and they're like you

00:37:18.193 --> 00:37:19.094
just need to build strength

00:37:19.614 --> 00:37:20.434
and I was like what do you

00:37:20.454 --> 00:37:21.195
think I build strength I

00:37:21.215 --> 00:37:22.056
play volleyball like that's

00:37:22.096 --> 00:37:23.157
my that's my and they're

00:37:23.177 --> 00:37:23.737
like no you need to do

00:37:23.757 --> 00:37:24.697
strength training so that's

00:37:24.717 --> 00:37:25.579
why the whole reason I

00:37:25.599 --> 00:37:26.278
started the gym in the

00:37:26.318 --> 00:37:27.079
first place was so I could

00:37:27.099 --> 00:37:28.721
play volleyball right like

00:37:29.521 --> 00:37:30.141
and I play volleyball

00:37:30.161 --> 00:37:30.842
because I like to play

00:37:30.862 --> 00:37:32.003
volleyball not necessarily

00:37:32.023 --> 00:37:33.224
because I want to not be fat

00:37:33.715 --> 00:37:34.635
You know?

00:37:36.175 --> 00:37:37.717
Because I am on cholesterol

00:37:37.737 --> 00:37:38.516
medication because I

00:37:38.617 --> 00:37:40.398
fucking love cheese and I

00:37:40.438 --> 00:37:41.438
have a predisposition

00:37:41.458 --> 00:37:42.237
because my whole family is

00:37:42.277 --> 00:37:43.139
high cholesterol, right?

00:37:43.619 --> 00:37:44.938
And I read your shit all the time.

00:37:44.978 --> 00:37:45.259
You're like,

00:37:45.278 --> 00:37:47.239
do this and this and eat broccoli.

00:37:47.260 --> 00:37:48.701
And I was like, that's really nice, Jenna.

00:37:49.141 --> 00:37:50.942
I ain't doing it.

00:37:51.641 --> 00:37:52.981
How about fucking cheese curds for dinner?

00:37:53.943 --> 00:37:57.143
With the side of broccoli.

00:37:58.023 --> 00:37:59.164
I don't even do broccoli.

00:37:59.505 --> 00:38:00.664
My brother loves broccoli.

00:38:00.684 --> 00:38:01.405
Spinach is good.

00:38:02.793 --> 00:38:03.534
What about spinach?

00:38:03.893 --> 00:38:04.655
The thing is with spinach,

00:38:04.675 --> 00:38:05.215
you're going to eat a

00:38:05.315 --> 00:38:06.315
shitload of spinach to have

00:38:06.356 --> 00:38:07.556
a fucking impact.

00:38:08.157 --> 00:38:09.739
Like I fucking, I love spinach.

00:38:09.918 --> 00:38:11.500
So I'll eat spinach like potato chips.

00:38:11.981 --> 00:38:14.342
I just sit there and I just like, um,

00:38:14.983 --> 00:38:16.063
also when you cook spinach,

00:38:16.304 --> 00:38:17.505
like it wilts down to nothing.

00:38:17.724 --> 00:38:19.567
Like it wilts down to like baby poop.

00:38:20.226 --> 00:38:23.530
And so I had Venice and

00:38:23.550 --> 00:38:24.751
Tenderloin last night with,

00:38:25.070 --> 00:38:27.032
I did have like a green noodles,

00:38:27.592 --> 00:38:29.114
like fancy wheat.

00:38:29.215 --> 00:38:29.574
Oh sure.

00:38:29.594 --> 00:38:30.576
Like a plant based.

00:38:31.552 --> 00:38:32.193
I don't fucking know.

00:38:32.534 --> 00:38:33.293
All I do know is they were

00:38:33.393 --> 00:38:34.494
frozen and they cooked in a

00:38:34.554 --> 00:38:36.175
minute with a little bit of

00:38:36.615 --> 00:38:37.516
garlic olive oil.

00:38:37.757 --> 00:38:38.036
So yeah,

00:38:38.097 --> 00:38:40.418
I went... But I had a half a bag

00:38:40.438 --> 00:38:41.759
of cheese curds before I had dinner.

00:38:41.978 --> 00:38:45.521
So that's the... And

00:38:45.561 --> 00:38:47.242
vegetables... I don't fuck

00:38:47.262 --> 00:38:47.862
with vegetables.

00:38:49.983 --> 00:38:50.724
Carnivore diet.

00:38:50.744 --> 00:38:52.184
That's my ideal diet.

00:38:52.646 --> 00:38:55.047
Which is fine.

00:38:55.646 --> 00:38:56.668
What about protein?

00:38:56.867 --> 00:38:57.929
How's your protein intake?

00:38:58.608 --> 00:38:59.829
That's key for guys.

00:39:00.489 --> 00:39:00.909
Oh yeah.

00:39:00.949 --> 00:39:01.150
No.

00:39:01.190 --> 00:39:03.612
So I, I could have a pure protein diet.

00:39:04.032 --> 00:39:04.271
Like,

00:39:04.873 --> 00:39:06.934
so my biggest issue is cutting out dairy.

00:39:06.994 --> 00:39:08.815
Cause I, I I'm fucking 40 years old.

00:39:08.875 --> 00:39:09.675
I still could drink like a

00:39:09.715 --> 00:39:10.715
half of a gallon of milk a day.

00:39:11.117 --> 00:39:11.996
And I love fucking cheese.

00:39:12.257 --> 00:39:12.777
I love cheese.

00:39:13.237 --> 00:39:14.378
Like I had shredded cheese

00:39:14.418 --> 00:39:15.358
today after my rotisserie

00:39:15.378 --> 00:39:15.958
chicken for lunch.

00:39:16.840 --> 00:39:18.820
Um, no, and I, and I,

00:39:18.880 --> 00:39:19.922
because I hunt and I have,

00:39:20.101 --> 00:39:21.222
I have tons of Venice.

00:39:21.262 --> 00:39:22.923
I eat mostly almost Venice

00:39:22.943 --> 00:39:23.903
and almost most nights.

00:39:24.625 --> 00:39:24.724
Um,

00:39:26.277 --> 00:39:27.538
And if I had more confidence

00:39:27.557 --> 00:39:28.838
in my ability to cook fish,

00:39:28.878 --> 00:39:29.599
I would eat more fish.

00:39:29.659 --> 00:39:30.300
I love fish.

00:39:30.780 --> 00:39:31.159
And yet,

00:39:32.661 --> 00:39:34.882
it's a lack of confidence cooking it.

00:39:34.902 --> 00:39:36.043
Because I always think I'm

00:39:36.063 --> 00:39:36.664
going to undercook it.

00:39:37.025 --> 00:39:39.025
And then I just fucking destroy it.

00:39:39.065 --> 00:39:39.646
Don't do it.

00:39:39.887 --> 00:39:40.487
Interesting.

00:39:40.887 --> 00:39:41.867
Also, cooking fish,

00:39:42.889 --> 00:39:44.630
I love cooking venison because it's like,

00:39:44.969 --> 00:39:45.710
put it in the frying pan.

00:39:45.731 --> 00:39:47.791
A little bit of butter, frying pan, done.

00:39:48.172 --> 00:39:49.733
It is hard to fuck something

00:39:49.753 --> 00:39:50.494
up in a frying pan.

00:39:51.655 --> 00:39:52.675
Do it with fish.

00:39:53.996 --> 00:39:55.677
Push yourself outside your comfort zone.

00:39:57.293 --> 00:39:57.432
Jen,

00:39:57.452 --> 00:39:58.434
we're supposed to be coaching the

00:39:58.474 --> 00:39:59.713
people listening, not me.

00:39:59.873 --> 00:40:00.994
Oh, okay.

00:40:01.014 --> 00:40:02.175
This would be very

00:40:02.215 --> 00:40:03.396
beneficial for them too.

00:40:03.516 --> 00:40:04.177
Oh yes.

00:40:04.456 --> 00:40:04.817
People.

00:40:04.976 --> 00:40:05.197
Yes.

00:40:05.916 --> 00:40:07.257
Do as I say, not as I do.

00:40:09.079 --> 00:40:10.079
That's why I love traveling.

00:40:10.099 --> 00:40:11.159
That's why I love going to restaurants.

00:40:11.179 --> 00:40:14.282
Cause I will always order shit that I,

00:40:14.802 --> 00:40:15.621
I do not cook at home.

00:40:15.641 --> 00:40:16.963
Like rarely am I going to

00:40:17.003 --> 00:40:18.963
order a steak or a burger?

00:40:19.284 --> 00:40:20.063
Like I want fish.

00:40:20.083 --> 00:40:22.766
I want something that they

00:40:22.786 --> 00:40:23.945
can prepare significantly

00:40:23.965 --> 00:40:24.547
better than I can.

00:40:25.286 --> 00:40:25.487
Yes.

00:40:26.268 --> 00:40:26.487
Yeah.

00:40:26.588 --> 00:40:26.907
That's good.

00:40:28.626 --> 00:40:28.925
All right,

00:40:28.945 --> 00:40:31.827
so what are some keys or what

00:40:31.867 --> 00:40:33.387
are some things that you teach men?

00:40:34.788 --> 00:40:36.228
Because you said confidence is the key.

00:40:36.289 --> 00:40:37.148
Confidence is the thing that

00:40:37.168 --> 00:40:37.748
they're lacking.

00:40:38.389 --> 00:40:40.389
So what are skills that

00:40:40.409 --> 00:40:44.331
you're giving them or what

00:40:44.351 --> 00:40:46.132
is it you do that increases

00:40:46.152 --> 00:40:47.711
their confidence so they feel confident?

00:40:47.731 --> 00:40:48.952
Like you said, after three to six months,

00:40:48.972 --> 00:40:49.753
they're quitting their jobs

00:40:49.813 --> 00:40:50.572
and starting new careers.

00:40:50.893 --> 00:40:52.474
What is it you're doing that

00:40:52.554 --> 00:40:54.175
can be repeated outside of

00:40:54.235 --> 00:40:55.295
you by our listeners?

00:40:56.581 --> 00:40:56.882
Well,

00:40:57.123 --> 00:40:59.331
I think it always comes down to the

00:40:59.431 --> 00:41:01.898
first step is what is it that I want?

00:41:02.659 --> 00:41:02.978
you know,

00:41:02.998 --> 00:41:04.460
a lot of people actually don't

00:41:04.519 --> 00:41:06.802
even know what do I want in life.

00:41:07.362 --> 00:41:09.204
So there's a lot of work

00:41:09.304 --> 00:41:10.545
that a lot of different

00:41:10.644 --> 00:41:12.146
exercises that I put guys

00:41:12.226 --> 00:41:14.728
through just uncovering who

00:41:14.927 --> 00:41:16.009
am I as a person?

00:41:16.409 --> 00:41:17.670
What is my mission in life?

00:41:18.070 --> 00:41:19.351
What is it that I value?

00:41:19.371 --> 00:41:22.434
And what, what are my goals?

00:41:22.914 --> 00:41:24.956
You know, we try to be very strategic.

00:41:25.315 --> 00:41:27.577
I think guys kind of like your, you know,

00:41:27.938 --> 00:41:28.818
your point system,

00:41:29.338 --> 00:41:30.239
It's nice when you're

00:41:30.420 --> 00:41:31.699
actually working towards a

00:41:31.820 --> 00:41:33.320
concrete goal that you can

00:41:33.481 --> 00:41:35.641
see progress with, you know,

00:41:35.702 --> 00:41:37.922
so you always want those quick wins.

00:41:38.402 --> 00:41:39.704
You know, you want to, you know,

00:41:39.724 --> 00:41:40.583
when the guy starts

00:41:40.704 --> 00:41:42.244
dropping weight or feeling

00:41:42.264 --> 00:41:43.385
a little bit more tone,

00:41:43.445 --> 00:41:45.306
seeing some more muscle definition,

00:41:45.646 --> 00:41:46.387
that feels good.

00:41:46.686 --> 00:41:46.987
Right.

00:41:47.507 --> 00:41:48.947
And then the deeper and

00:41:49.007 --> 00:41:50.289
deeper that you get with

00:41:50.329 --> 00:41:51.670
some of these easy wins and

00:41:51.769 --> 00:41:52.969
almost always it's water.

00:41:53.349 --> 00:41:54.391
How much water are you drinking?

00:41:54.590 --> 00:41:54.811
Right.

00:41:54.891 --> 00:41:56.672
And then we just start increasing weight.

00:41:57.211 --> 00:41:58.413
such basic stuff.

00:41:58.914 --> 00:42:00.655
And once you see that ball rolling,

00:42:00.855 --> 00:42:01.775
you just become more and

00:42:01.815 --> 00:42:03.177
more confident that I can

00:42:03.217 --> 00:42:05.179
do anything that I set my mind to.

00:42:05.679 --> 00:42:06.719
I can get to, you know,

00:42:07.960 --> 00:42:09.942
leg pressing 250 pounds

00:42:10.443 --> 00:42:11.483
because I got somebody

00:42:11.543 --> 00:42:13.045
there who's going to hold me to that.

00:42:13.204 --> 00:42:14.905
If I say that's a goal of mine, well,

00:42:14.945 --> 00:42:15.927
we're going to make it happen.

00:42:17.500 --> 00:42:18.300
It's not the leg press.

00:42:18.380 --> 00:42:20.880
It's a hip adduction.

00:42:21.161 --> 00:42:22.001
I think I can leg press 250.

00:42:22.041 --> 00:42:23.882
That's not an issue.

00:42:23.902 --> 00:42:25.521
Because I do the leg press machine.

00:42:25.581 --> 00:42:26.521
It's way more than 250.

00:42:26.601 --> 00:42:27.021
No big deal.

00:42:27.041 --> 00:42:27.822
I'm not showing off.

00:42:29.023 --> 00:42:30.083
That's not like a huge weight.

00:42:30.603 --> 00:42:32.204
It's a leg whatever.

00:42:32.443 --> 00:42:34.164
It's the point I want to hit the 250.

00:42:34.623 --> 00:42:34.965
Also,

00:42:35.144 --> 00:42:36.945
I drink a shitload of water at night.

00:42:36.965 --> 00:42:38.505
I never drink water during the day.

00:42:39.186 --> 00:42:40.226
Why is that?

00:42:41.690 --> 00:42:43.172
Because you drink probably

00:42:43.211 --> 00:42:44.672
coffee most of the day.

00:42:44.693 --> 00:42:47.034
You can't have coffee all fucking day.

00:42:47.054 --> 00:42:50.355
See, I'm big on essential amino acids.

00:42:50.494 --> 00:42:51.456
That was one of the biggest

00:42:51.516 --> 00:42:53.197
changes I've made personally,

00:42:53.277 --> 00:42:54.496
and I have my guys do it.

00:42:54.858 --> 00:42:55.918
Your very first thing you

00:42:55.938 --> 00:42:56.958
should drink in the morning

00:42:57.179 --> 00:42:58.219
is amino acids.

00:42:58.739 --> 00:42:59.500
Then you're getting this

00:42:59.679 --> 00:43:02.360
full thing of water before caffeine.

00:43:02.721 --> 00:43:04.681
You're replenishing all the muscle loss,

00:43:04.942 --> 00:43:06.043
all the protein that was

00:43:06.182 --> 00:43:07.384
utilized over sleep.

00:43:07.403 --> 00:43:09.184
That's when your body heals, grows,

00:43:09.284 --> 00:43:09.704
repairs.

00:43:10.601 --> 00:43:12.621
And instantly you're starting your day,

00:43:13.262 --> 00:43:14.262
fueling your body.

00:43:14.402 --> 00:43:15.362
So you're hydrated.

00:43:15.442 --> 00:43:17.422
You got high protein right off the bat.

00:43:17.922 --> 00:43:19.222
And then you don't even need

00:43:19.262 --> 00:43:21.403
that first cup of coffee until, you know,

00:43:21.423 --> 00:43:23.704
whatever, 10 o'clock, 11 o'clock,

00:43:23.804 --> 00:43:26.304
whenever it is that you, you know,

00:43:26.344 --> 00:43:27.525
you start to experience that.

00:43:29.126 --> 00:43:30.286
All right.

00:43:30.306 --> 00:43:32.226
Or even an hour later, you know,

00:43:32.266 --> 00:43:33.786
your first hour of waking up.

00:43:34.648 --> 00:43:35.068
Yeah, 90 minutes.

00:43:35.088 --> 00:43:36.550
The key, Andrew Haberman,

00:43:36.670 --> 00:43:37.371
the neuroscientist,

00:43:37.391 --> 00:43:38.030
talks about 90 minutes.

00:43:38.090 --> 00:43:39.072
The key is to go 90 minutes

00:43:39.092 --> 00:43:40.391
without drinking any coffee

00:43:40.753 --> 00:43:41.992
because it allows your

00:43:42.273 --> 00:43:43.954
brain to fully open up and

00:43:44.715 --> 00:43:45.014
all the things.

00:43:45.034 --> 00:43:45.994
And your kidneys.

00:43:46.356 --> 00:43:48.757
So all that shit that happened overnight,

00:43:49.016 --> 00:43:50.617
so you're growing, you're repairing,

00:43:50.657 --> 00:43:52.398
you're healing, you're processing.

00:43:52.438 --> 00:43:54.840
That's why it's a bad idea

00:43:54.880 --> 00:43:56.221
to binge eat before you go

00:43:56.260 --> 00:43:57.561
to bed because now your

00:43:57.641 --> 00:43:59.583
body has so much work to do

00:43:59.862 --> 00:44:00.704
all night long,

00:44:00.784 --> 00:44:01.844
and it can't go around and

00:44:01.903 --> 00:44:03.085
clean up all the other stuff.

00:44:03.425 --> 00:44:04.204
It's like the garbage

00:44:04.244 --> 00:44:06.226
removal when it's got a big

00:44:06.306 --> 00:44:07.606
shit ton of stuff to do.

00:44:07.746 --> 00:44:09.007
It can't go around and clean

00:44:09.027 --> 00:44:10.007
the nooks and crannies.

00:44:10.748 --> 00:44:12.829
So when you drink water in

00:44:12.869 --> 00:44:14.289
the morning and you your

00:44:14.389 --> 00:44:15.449
first couple of peas,

00:44:15.750 --> 00:44:17.871
you're flushing all the toxins out.

00:44:18.030 --> 00:44:20.552
It's like you're you're like a sewer,

00:44:20.692 --> 00:44:20.893
right?

00:44:20.932 --> 00:44:22.452
You're like cleaning it out

00:44:22.552 --> 00:44:23.994
before you're packing shit in.

00:44:25.489 --> 00:44:25.768
Okay,

00:44:25.809 --> 00:44:27.849
so I fucking love going to bed on a

00:44:27.889 --> 00:44:28.349
full stomach.

00:44:28.610 --> 00:44:29.989
I sleep so much better.

00:44:30.010 --> 00:44:32.371
I think Andrew Huberman talked about this,

00:44:32.391 --> 00:44:33.231
like carb load.

00:44:33.650 --> 00:44:35.931
I can go all day where I

00:44:36.072 --> 00:44:37.092
only eat carbs at night,

00:44:37.652 --> 00:44:39.351
and I eat dinner late all the time,

00:44:39.391 --> 00:44:40.172
like 7, 8 o'clock.

00:44:40.693 --> 00:44:42.472
Tonight I have gym at 7,

00:44:42.472 --> 00:44:44.773
so I'm not going to get home until 8,

00:44:44.773 --> 00:44:45.474
which means I'm not going

00:44:45.494 --> 00:44:46.994
to be done eating until 9,

00:44:46.994 --> 00:44:48.554
and I'm going to carb load like a mother.

00:44:50.135 --> 00:44:51.074
Now as I'm talking about dinner,

00:44:51.215 --> 00:44:51.795
I'm already thinking about

00:44:51.815 --> 00:44:52.936
dinner because I fucking love dinner.

00:44:53.396 --> 00:44:55.360
I'm going to have a pound of rice.

00:44:55.380 --> 00:44:55.842
That'd be heavy.

00:44:56.282 --> 00:44:57.364
I'm going to have a cup of rice.

00:44:57.865 --> 00:45:01.173
Actually, how much is a cup of rice?

00:45:01.193 --> 00:45:03.057
I want to see the weight of a cup of rice.

00:45:03.668 --> 00:45:04.789
Well, and let me ask you,

00:45:04.909 --> 00:45:05.909
is this white rice?

00:45:06.190 --> 00:45:07.630
Is this a whole grain?

00:45:07.690 --> 00:45:09.271
Is this a brown rice?

00:45:10.112 --> 00:45:12.853
This is regular ass white rice.

00:45:14.114 --> 00:45:15.835
That would be one of the

00:45:15.934 --> 00:45:16.916
first things I'd say.

00:45:16.956 --> 00:45:18.336
Switch that out for quinoa.

00:45:18.476 --> 00:45:20.177
Switch that out for something else.

00:45:20.197 --> 00:45:21.197
I got a rice cooker.

00:45:21.277 --> 00:45:22.059
I got a rice cooker,

00:45:22.079 --> 00:45:23.239
not a fucking quinoa cooker.

00:45:23.259 --> 00:45:24.500
I'm sure it probably does the same.

00:45:25.059 --> 00:45:27.101
One cup of white rice is seven ounces,

00:45:27.121 --> 00:45:28.141
so I guess about a half a pound.

00:45:30.612 --> 00:45:30.771
See,

00:45:30.831 --> 00:45:32.432
I was told white rice is like the best

00:45:32.492 --> 00:45:33.934
carb because it's so simple.

00:45:34.494 --> 00:45:35.173
No way.

00:45:35.335 --> 00:45:38.036
So any simple carb like a white rice,

00:45:38.255 --> 00:45:42.170
any enriched white flour –

00:45:42.170 --> 00:45:45.271
Your body, right after you digest it,

00:45:45.371 --> 00:45:46.532
it's just like sugar.

00:45:46.954 --> 00:45:48.375
So it puts your body in this

00:45:48.494 --> 00:45:50.695
high stress response causing this,

00:45:50.775 --> 00:45:51.757
it's called the blood sugar

00:45:51.817 --> 00:45:52.617
roller coaster.

00:45:52.637 --> 00:45:53.518
Real quick,

00:45:53.538 --> 00:45:55.139
I went to type in best carbs

00:45:55.679 --> 00:45:57.041
and it shows up as Alaskan

00:45:57.101 --> 00:45:58.342
King because I type in

00:45:58.402 --> 00:46:01.844
crabs because I fucking, A,

00:46:01.905 --> 00:46:02.704
I can't spell.

00:46:06.027 --> 00:46:06.248
Yeah.

00:46:07.027 --> 00:46:07.369
Yes.

00:46:07.789 --> 00:46:09.610
Even Taylor says brown rice

00:46:09.710 --> 00:46:10.391
might be better.

00:46:10.411 --> 00:46:10.471
Yes.

00:46:13.083 --> 00:46:14.224
That's what I'm going to buy you.

00:46:15.284 --> 00:46:18.666
No, because... No, what do you call it?

00:46:21.670 --> 00:46:22.070
The fuck?

00:46:23.731 --> 00:46:23.871
No,

00:46:23.911 --> 00:46:25.152
brown rice is terrible because it has

00:46:25.172 --> 00:46:26.474
the husk and shit on it and

00:46:26.554 --> 00:46:27.875
your body doesn't digest that shit,

00:46:27.914 --> 00:46:28.275
I thought.

00:46:29.056 --> 00:46:31.056
That's why... All right, fine.

00:46:31.077 --> 00:46:32.418
To your point, Healthline.com.

00:46:33.938 --> 00:46:34.838
Again, totally, like,

00:46:34.878 --> 00:46:36.039
fucking biased and probably

00:46:36.079 --> 00:46:36.860
trying to sell shit.

00:46:37.079 --> 00:46:38.360
It's a goddamn Walmart ad.

00:46:39.041 --> 00:46:39.320
You're right.

00:46:39.360 --> 00:46:40.440
Quinoa is number one.

00:46:40.920 --> 00:46:41.860
Oats is two.

00:46:42.742 --> 00:46:45.121
Oats and me do not agree for some reason.

00:46:45.141 --> 00:46:46.322
That's all right.

00:46:46.963 --> 00:46:47.463
Buckwheat.

00:46:47.483 --> 00:46:48.864
That's what my fucking dad calls me.

00:46:48.903 --> 00:46:49.623
That ain't fucking.

00:46:49.824 --> 00:46:50.463
What is this shit?

00:46:51.023 --> 00:46:52.985
You can't eat fucking raw buckwheat.

00:46:53.005 --> 00:46:53.405
What the fuck?

00:46:53.425 --> 00:46:55.186
Where the hell do you find buckwheat?

00:46:55.525 --> 00:46:56.505
There ain't no fucking buckwheat.

00:46:56.565 --> 00:46:58.487
It's fucking laying around.

00:46:59.186 --> 00:47:00.106
I can't find a bag of

00:47:00.206 --> 00:47:01.246
buckwheat at the Costco.

00:47:01.327 --> 00:47:03.068
How do you eat buckwheat?

00:47:04.590 --> 00:47:05.731
is a highly nutritious whole

00:47:05.751 --> 00:47:06.672
grain that many people

00:47:06.711 --> 00:47:08.092
consider to be a superfood.

00:47:08.393 --> 00:47:09.094
What is this shit?

00:47:10.074 --> 00:47:10.594
I'm going to type in

00:47:10.715 --> 00:47:11.856
buckwheat in real life.

00:47:11.996 --> 00:47:14.036
Now you got me triggered with your fucking,

00:47:14.617 --> 00:47:15.518
you know, like my white reef.

00:47:15.677 --> 00:47:15.878
Okay,

00:47:16.018 --> 00:47:17.320
I just typed in buckwheat in real

00:47:17.360 --> 00:47:18.981
life and goddamn buckwheat

00:47:19.061 --> 00:47:21.902
from little rascals popped up.

00:47:21.922 --> 00:47:22.143
See,

00:47:22.382 --> 00:47:25.364
you can't even find buckwheat in real

00:47:25.684 --> 00:47:25.985
food.

00:47:26.164 --> 00:47:26.925
That ain't a real thing.

00:47:29.947 --> 00:47:31.369
Keen was a complete protein,

00:47:31.389 --> 00:47:32.730
so it is a superfood.

00:47:34.199 --> 00:47:37.099
I don't hate quinoa.

00:47:37.219 --> 00:47:37.519
Actually,

00:47:37.539 --> 00:47:40.820
I think I probably have quinoa in

00:47:40.860 --> 00:47:41.621
my pantry.

00:47:41.641 --> 00:47:44.041
I don't hate it.

00:47:44.061 --> 00:47:44.902
I just don't love it.

00:47:45.641 --> 00:47:45.942
Sure.

00:47:46.342 --> 00:47:47.302
Well, that's the thing.

00:47:47.342 --> 00:47:48.702
It's like you got to decide

00:47:48.762 --> 00:47:50.302
what are you eating for, right?

00:47:50.402 --> 00:47:51.922
Is it just for the immediate

00:47:51.963 --> 00:47:53.304
gratification for the taste

00:47:53.384 --> 00:47:55.063
or are you eating for longevity?

00:47:55.083 --> 00:47:58.364
I eat until I'm physically –

00:47:59.545 --> 00:48:00.385
Unable to keep eating.

00:48:01.347 --> 00:48:03.208
My daughter loves mac and cheese,

00:48:03.268 --> 00:48:05.250
and so do I. I will make a

00:48:05.289 --> 00:48:06.150
box of mac and cheese,

00:48:06.190 --> 00:48:07.050
and there's no way we're

00:48:07.070 --> 00:48:08.411
splitting that 50-50.

00:48:08.472 --> 00:48:10.313
I will eat until I eat all

00:48:10.333 --> 00:48:11.074
the food on my plate,

00:48:11.454 --> 00:48:13.155
and then she eats as much as she does,

00:48:13.476 --> 00:48:14.498
and I just finish her plate,

00:48:14.538 --> 00:48:15.398
and I'm so happy.

00:48:16.039 --> 00:48:18.641
All the other high-carb foods are fruits,

00:48:19.822 --> 00:48:20.603
and I can't have them.

00:48:20.623 --> 00:48:21.744
Then it's kidney beans and

00:48:21.784 --> 00:48:24.085
chickpeas are the last two.

00:48:24.766 --> 00:48:25.005
Yes.

00:48:25.347 --> 00:48:25.847
Pasta...

00:48:27.278 --> 00:48:28.099
I love pasta.

00:48:28.239 --> 00:48:29.280
I fucking love pasta.

00:48:29.340 --> 00:48:31.340
But chickpea pasta is an

00:48:31.380 --> 00:48:32.840
incredible alternative.

00:48:32.860 --> 00:48:35.541
Because you're getting so much protein,

00:48:35.601 --> 00:48:36.402
it's plant-based,

00:48:36.461 --> 00:48:37.702
and it doesn't got all the carbs.

00:48:38.101 --> 00:48:38.382
Also,

00:48:38.402 --> 00:48:41.902
they don't sell... According to the

00:48:41.922 --> 00:48:42.704
internet right now,

00:48:42.943 --> 00:48:44.664
since we got totally sidetracked,

00:48:45.083 --> 00:48:45.784
they don't sell...

00:48:48.987 --> 00:48:49.929
buckwheat at the Costco.

00:48:50.108 --> 00:48:51.170
And that's where I do my shopping.

00:48:51.210 --> 00:48:52.952
If Costco don't sell it, I don't, I ain't,

00:48:52.992 --> 00:48:53.592
that ain't what I do.

00:48:53.911 --> 00:48:56.414
They do have organic quinoa

00:48:56.855 --> 00:48:58.476
and they have my bag of Jasmine rice.

00:48:58.516 --> 00:48:59.436
I buy the big old 25,

00:48:59.436 --> 00:49:01.099
I have a 25 pound bag of

00:49:01.159 --> 00:49:02.739
rice at home from the Costco.

00:49:03.201 --> 00:49:04.021
There's like 20 bucks.

00:49:04.121 --> 00:49:05.043
It's so cheap.

00:49:05.083 --> 00:49:06.824
It's so like, so that's,

00:49:07.023 --> 00:49:08.025
we did the math on that.

00:49:08.045 --> 00:49:09.867
That's 50 fucking servings,

00:49:09.867 --> 00:49:11.128
50 plus 54 servings.

00:49:11.728 --> 00:49:11.929
Yeah.

00:49:12.528 --> 00:49:13.650
That's a year's worth of rice for me.

00:49:14.030 --> 00:49:14.251
Easy.

00:49:16.304 --> 00:49:17.365
That's the problem, though,

00:49:17.485 --> 00:49:19.047
is that good food is

00:49:19.827 --> 00:49:21.668
usually more expensive and

00:49:22.148 --> 00:49:23.268
can take longer to prep.

00:49:23.550 --> 00:49:24.750
And that's why people avoid it.

00:49:25.411 --> 00:49:27.472
I have no problem living forever, right?

00:49:28.072 --> 00:49:30.653
All right.

00:49:30.733 --> 00:49:32.934
Quinoa actually is on point

00:49:33.255 --> 00:49:37.577
price-wise as double the

00:49:37.597 --> 00:49:40.460
price of white rice.

00:49:40.599 --> 00:49:41.420
And that's not crazy.

00:49:41.481 --> 00:49:44.722
I don't know if I love quinoa that much.

00:49:45.833 --> 00:49:46.353
Try it once.

00:49:46.974 --> 00:49:48.275
No, I've had it.

00:49:48.516 --> 00:49:50.597
No, no, I've had it.

00:49:50.858 --> 00:49:51.597
I've eaten.

00:49:51.657 --> 00:49:53.119
I've dated people that were like, quinoa.

00:49:53.159 --> 00:49:53.880
And I was like, all right,

00:49:53.940 --> 00:49:54.561
I'll eat this shit.

00:49:55.561 --> 00:49:58.744
I don't go out of my way to

00:49:58.804 --> 00:49:59.503
buy it or something.

00:49:59.824 --> 00:50:00.565
What's the other one I like?

00:50:01.045 --> 00:50:01.465
Rosetta?

00:50:01.485 --> 00:50:01.905
Risotto?

00:50:01.965 --> 00:50:02.547
The one you got to keep

00:50:02.567 --> 00:50:03.186
putting the water in?

00:50:03.226 --> 00:50:03.626
Risotto?

00:50:03.646 --> 00:50:04.547
I love risotto.

00:50:05.469 --> 00:50:06.449
Too lazy to make it, though.

00:50:06.710 --> 00:50:07.530
And that's just flour.

00:50:07.610 --> 00:50:09.112
That's just flour and a smaller noodle,

00:50:09.391 --> 00:50:09.931
basically.

00:50:10.472 --> 00:50:11.853
Can we put ketchup on it to

00:50:11.914 --> 00:50:12.713
make it taste better?

00:50:12.793 --> 00:50:13.275
Or cheese.

00:50:13.295 --> 00:50:13.414
Cheese.

00:50:15.068 --> 00:50:17.172
Welcome to a trash talk food

00:50:17.211 --> 00:50:19.856
podcast where we talk about all food that

00:50:21.672 --> 00:50:22.592
I'm supposed to be eating so

00:50:22.873 --> 00:50:25.855
I'm not fat and lazy someday.

00:50:26.235 --> 00:50:27.076
But this is the thing.

00:50:27.175 --> 00:50:31.378
You can't outrun a bad diet.

00:50:31.637 --> 00:50:34.059
But I always tell people you got to live.

00:50:34.478 --> 00:50:35.760
So if you are going to have

00:50:35.840 --> 00:50:37.639
a high-carb diet,

00:50:38.041 --> 00:50:39.440
then are you doing enough

00:50:39.541 --> 00:50:41.222
activity to actually burn

00:50:41.282 --> 00:50:42.302
that excess carbs?

00:50:42.483 --> 00:50:43.682
Because carbs is energy.

00:50:44.163 --> 00:50:45.664
And what energy does not get

00:50:45.824 --> 00:50:47.105
used gets stored as fat.

00:50:47.724 --> 00:50:49.985
And then, you know, people right now,

00:50:50.005 --> 00:50:50.987
you know,

00:50:51.206 --> 00:50:53.469
over 40% of men are

00:50:53.628 --> 00:50:55.349
unfortunately overweight.

00:50:55.349 --> 00:50:56.731
50% have either high blood

00:50:56.751 --> 00:50:58.231
pressure or high cholesterol.

00:50:58.811 --> 00:51:01.773
And one in four die from heart disease.

00:51:01.994 --> 00:51:04.315
And almost all of that can be prevented.

00:51:04.875 --> 00:51:06.335
That's why I'm so passionate

00:51:06.416 --> 00:51:08.257
because it's like, why?

00:51:08.277 --> 00:51:11.559
Why live a short life or why

00:51:11.619 --> 00:51:12.719
have a stroke or a heart

00:51:12.739 --> 00:51:14.740
attack at 50 when that

00:51:14.760 --> 00:51:15.501
could be prevented?

00:51:16.481 --> 00:51:17.682
Yeah, according to the Army,

00:51:17.742 --> 00:51:18.443
I'm overweight.

00:51:18.643 --> 00:51:19.083
I'm fat.

00:51:21.146 --> 00:51:22.606
So even this chart here, I have 76.

00:51:22.646 --> 00:51:24.688
Actually, I like this chart.

00:51:24.947 --> 00:51:26.570
This chart here says I'm not fat.

00:51:26.630 --> 00:51:27.050
So there we go.

00:51:27.090 --> 00:51:29.192
Let me use this chart from now on.

00:51:29.291 --> 00:51:30.211
My base guy.

00:51:30.231 --> 00:51:30.472
All right.

00:51:30.492 --> 00:51:34.195
So this says 76 inches, 40 plus.

00:51:34.295 --> 00:51:34.956
Finally hit that.

00:51:35.195 --> 00:51:35.717
No big deal.

00:51:36.036 --> 00:51:37.318
I got 226 pounds.

00:51:37.338 --> 00:51:38.199
That's my allotted.

00:51:38.539 --> 00:51:39.298
Even actually 28 to 39 was 223.

00:51:39.338 --> 00:51:39.860
So I hover right at.

00:51:39.860 --> 00:51:46.894
218 to 221 like that's my my

00:51:47.014 --> 00:51:51.018
hover weight um for the

00:51:51.038 --> 00:51:51.697
longest time I couldn't

00:51:51.737 --> 00:51:52.539
even get over 200 pounds

00:51:52.559 --> 00:51:54.380
when I was back in uh iraq

00:51:54.400 --> 00:51:55.541
I remember I wanted so bad

00:51:55.581 --> 00:51:57.762
to get I was like at 187

00:51:57.762 --> 00:52:00.003
for the longest time like

00:52:00.043 --> 00:52:00.824
and then and then once I

00:52:00.844 --> 00:52:01.985
hit 200 pounds I've never

00:52:02.304 --> 00:52:02.885
been under 200 pounds

00:52:03.942 --> 00:52:04.161
Sure.

00:52:04.822 --> 00:52:06.682
My ideal weight is probably, I don't know,

00:52:06.682 --> 00:52:06.963
205 maybe.

00:52:07.003 --> 00:52:07.523
What's the ideal?

00:52:07.543 --> 00:52:10.403
According to the Army, I'm fat.

00:52:10.864 --> 00:52:12.844
My max is 212.

00:52:13.565 --> 00:52:15.025
That's for when you're like 20, though.

00:52:15.806 --> 00:52:16.186
Sure.

00:52:17.606 --> 00:52:18.746
That's ROTC standards.

00:52:19.588 --> 00:52:21.568
What's hard, though, I mean, you're tall.

00:52:21.688 --> 00:52:23.668
You're tall and thin.

00:52:23.889 --> 00:52:25.188
It's your muscle distribution.

00:52:25.269 --> 00:52:27.210
Muscle weighs way more than fat.

00:52:27.869 --> 00:52:30.231
I also got a fucking pooch.

00:52:30.710 --> 00:52:32.072
I ain't going to lie about that.

00:52:32.519 --> 00:52:33.820
I mean, I wasn't going to say that.

00:52:35.420 --> 00:52:36.481
But you really don't.

00:52:36.940 --> 00:52:38.561
I can't see that shit from a goddamn Zoom.

00:52:39.262 --> 00:52:39.942
What are we on?

00:52:40.202 --> 00:52:41.161
StreamYard?

00:52:41.802 --> 00:52:42.762
Hashtag StreamYard.

00:52:43.063 --> 00:52:45.922
That's going to drive me nuts.

00:52:45.943 --> 00:52:46.204
All right.

00:52:46.324 --> 00:52:47.923
Anyways.

00:52:50.445 --> 00:52:51.344
What did we solve today?

00:52:51.445 --> 00:52:52.144
Quinoa.

00:52:53.065 --> 00:52:53.664
Confidence.

00:52:53.985 --> 00:52:55.186
Quit your fucking job you hate.

00:52:55.666 --> 00:52:56.425
Go for a walk.

00:52:56.865 --> 00:52:58.206
I will say that when I am in

00:52:58.547 --> 00:52:59.286
my depression...

00:53:00.161 --> 00:53:00.742
Hire a coach.

00:53:01.282 --> 00:53:03.666
I will say when I am in my

00:53:04.146 --> 00:53:05.608
woe is me victim mindset,

00:53:05.989 --> 00:53:07.389
I have a tendency to be lethargic.

00:53:08.070 --> 00:53:09.893
Earlier this year,

00:53:09.932 --> 00:53:10.653
I started playing video

00:53:10.693 --> 00:53:11.514
games because I was not in

00:53:11.534 --> 00:53:12.496
a great place mentally.

00:53:12.516 --> 00:53:14.599
Video games were giving me

00:53:14.619 --> 00:53:17.481
that little bit of dopamine satisfaction.

00:53:18.443 --> 00:53:19.344
and and they weren't

00:53:19.523 --> 00:53:20.304
actually solving any

00:53:20.324 --> 00:53:21.365
problems I was you know

00:53:21.385 --> 00:53:22.947
just masking the

00:53:22.967 --> 00:53:24.028
frustrations I was having

00:53:24.068 --> 00:53:25.530
in life and I know when I'm

00:53:25.590 --> 00:53:26.630
out and I'm active I'm

00:53:26.811 --> 00:53:28.612
better um obviously this

00:53:28.652 --> 00:53:29.233
time of year with the

00:53:29.273 --> 00:53:30.315
weather being legit like

00:53:30.375 --> 00:53:34.298
it's a lot simpler um I

00:53:34.318 --> 00:53:35.099
know for me I need to get

00:53:35.119 --> 00:53:35.920
out and be active earlier

00:53:35.940 --> 00:53:36.782
in the day that's what I

00:53:36.822 --> 00:53:37.902
need to do because I work

00:53:37.922 --> 00:53:38.764
work work and then at the

00:53:38.784 --> 00:53:39.443
end of the day I'm like oh

00:53:39.463 --> 00:53:40.244
now I'm gonna go work out

00:53:40.304 --> 00:53:41.045
and I'm normally uh

00:53:43.222 --> 00:53:44.724
I've already like my best

00:53:44.744 --> 00:53:45.943
hours are behind me typically,

00:53:45.963 --> 00:53:46.804
if that makes sense.

00:53:47.525 --> 00:53:47.724
Well,

00:53:47.824 --> 00:53:49.704
and that's the beauty of being an

00:53:49.764 --> 00:53:50.945
entrepreneur, right?

00:53:51.106 --> 00:53:53.106
Is that if you have more

00:53:53.146 --> 00:53:54.467
control over your schedule

00:53:54.586 --> 00:53:56.288
and you know what works for you,

00:53:56.728 --> 00:53:57.628
then you make it work.

00:53:57.807 --> 00:53:59.048
It becomes a priority.

00:53:59.329 --> 00:54:01.489
You book it in your calendar

00:54:01.690 --> 00:54:03.409
that this is a meeting I

00:54:03.469 --> 00:54:06.110
cannot miss me and a workout,

00:54:06.251 --> 00:54:07.572
whatever that means for me.

00:54:08.737 --> 00:54:09.016
Oh, yeah.

00:54:09.056 --> 00:54:09.858
No, absolutely.

00:54:11.139 --> 00:54:12.278
Last year, I had more flexibility.

00:54:12.298 --> 00:54:13.460
I was working out earlier in the day.

00:54:13.480 --> 00:54:17.222
And I will get back to that

00:54:17.322 --> 00:54:18.784
this year where I'm booking

00:54:18.804 --> 00:54:20.485
my workouts and working out

00:54:20.585 --> 00:54:22.146
earlier in the day when I'm

00:54:22.166 --> 00:54:23.226
in a more of a prime zone

00:54:23.547 --> 00:54:24.567
versus an afterthought.

00:54:24.726 --> 00:54:25.568
And we'll use it as dead on.

00:54:25.628 --> 00:54:29.150
It is prioritize the priorities, right?

00:54:29.329 --> 00:54:30.831
When you schedule it as a priority,

00:54:30.911 --> 00:54:31.112
then...

00:54:32.297 --> 00:54:32.538
you know,

00:54:32.818 --> 00:54:34.778
then you're good because then you're,

00:54:34.978 --> 00:54:36.099
you're, you're saying, Hey,

00:54:36.119 --> 00:54:36.900
I'm going to take care of me.

00:54:37.119 --> 00:54:38.320
I talked about someone that this weekend,

00:54:38.340 --> 00:54:38.581
they're like,

00:54:38.641 --> 00:54:39.681
I take care of everybody else.

00:54:39.701 --> 00:54:40.360
I was like, cool.

00:54:40.942 --> 00:54:42.942
How much time do you do work on yourself?

00:54:42.961 --> 00:54:44.242
And they're like, none.

00:54:44.262 --> 00:54:44.922
And I was like, okay,

00:54:45.804 --> 00:54:47.164
then you're burning the candle.

00:54:47.224 --> 00:54:47.423
Right.

00:54:47.563 --> 00:54:48.824
And when you don't take care of yourself,

00:54:49.684 --> 00:54:50.465
You're not going to be the

00:54:50.505 --> 00:54:51.465
best version of yourself to

00:54:51.505 --> 00:54:53.407
take care of your significant other,

00:54:53.847 --> 00:54:55.427
your kids, your business,

00:54:55.588 --> 00:54:57.528
your social life, whatever it is.

00:54:58.349 --> 00:55:00.990
I'm intentionally selfish with my time.

00:55:01.010 --> 00:55:01.911
I went to the beach this weekend.

00:55:02.110 --> 00:55:03.211
That's what I do to recharge.

00:55:03.831 --> 00:55:04.972
I play volleyball two days a week.

00:55:05.572 --> 00:55:06.293
When there's a networking

00:55:06.333 --> 00:55:07.994
event on Tuesday or Wednesday, it's like,

00:55:08.155 --> 00:55:09.094
no, I play volleyball.

00:55:09.414 --> 00:55:10.096
That's what I do.

00:55:10.615 --> 00:55:11.876
I know me missing volleyball

00:55:11.896 --> 00:55:13.137
will make me not the best

00:55:13.177 --> 00:55:14.097
person in the world.

00:55:14.677 --> 00:55:16.659
When I play volleyball, I feel better.

00:55:17.039 --> 00:55:18.380
I'm a better version of myself that week.

00:55:18.900 --> 00:55:20.239
I get it.

00:55:20.340 --> 00:55:22.061
It's like my volleyball is

00:55:22.081 --> 00:55:22.960
like the hour a week.

00:55:23.001 --> 00:55:23.742
I know I'm not gonna be on

00:55:23.762 --> 00:55:24.882
my phone because I am a

00:55:24.942 --> 00:55:26.882
glutton for being stuck on

00:55:26.902 --> 00:55:27.802
my phone and the fucking

00:55:27.882 --> 00:55:30.523
dopamine from emails to

00:55:30.563 --> 00:55:32.244
messages to social media, to YouTube.

00:55:32.304 --> 00:55:34.864
Like I, I know the right answer.

00:55:35.385 --> 00:55:35.625
Right.

00:55:35.644 --> 00:55:37.266
And I need to get out.

00:55:37.445 --> 00:55:39.407
I need to get out and be more active.

00:55:40.146 --> 00:55:41.126
Uh, I got the coach part,

00:55:41.186 --> 00:55:42.126
that part I'm good on.

00:55:42.146 --> 00:55:43.288
Um, yeah.

00:55:44.400 --> 00:55:44.960
And that's the thing too,

00:55:45.400 --> 00:55:47.181
when listeners reach out to me often,

00:55:47.501 --> 00:55:48.101
it's like they're reaching

00:55:48.121 --> 00:55:49.001
out when they're in burnout

00:55:49.061 --> 00:55:51.402
phase and they have never

00:55:51.541 --> 00:55:52.822
prioritized themselves.

00:55:53.322 --> 00:55:55.041
And now they have this, woe is me,

00:55:55.101 --> 00:55:57.123
I have to do this victim mindset.

00:55:57.762 --> 00:55:58.842
And I tell them all the same thing.

00:55:58.882 --> 00:56:00.903
And I was 100% guilty of it too.

00:56:00.983 --> 00:56:01.483
Raise my hand.

00:56:01.523 --> 00:56:02.784
I was the guy where it's like,

00:56:03.903 --> 00:56:05.405
you're a martyr to your business.

00:56:05.445 --> 00:56:06.445
And the thing is with martyrs,

00:56:06.485 --> 00:56:07.144
they always die.

00:56:08.302 --> 00:56:08.802
So it's like,

00:56:08.822 --> 00:56:09.704
do you want to be the victor

00:56:09.724 --> 00:56:10.905
within your business or the martyr?

00:56:10.945 --> 00:56:12.646
And that's a choice on

00:56:12.666 --> 00:56:13.365
whether or not you take

00:56:13.385 --> 00:56:14.706
care of what you said, what I like,

00:56:14.987 --> 00:56:17.489
was mental, physical,

00:56:17.548 --> 00:56:18.489
and emotional health.

00:56:19.110 --> 00:56:19.469
Exactly.

00:56:19.489 --> 00:56:21.751
And movement begets momentum.

00:56:22.371 --> 00:56:24.373
And so getting movement first,

00:56:24.893 --> 00:56:25.673
which is a choice,

00:56:26.313 --> 00:56:27.875
can beget the momentum of

00:56:28.114 --> 00:56:29.155
stabilizing your emotional

00:56:29.175 --> 00:56:29.815
and your mental health.

00:56:29.835 --> 00:56:29.815
100%.

00:56:30.617 --> 00:56:30.737
Yes.

00:56:30.797 --> 00:56:30.856
Yes.

00:56:33.985 --> 00:56:34.686
That's exactly it.

00:56:34.907 --> 00:56:35.748
And that's what I do.

00:56:36.489 --> 00:56:37.931
You just start with the

00:56:37.992 --> 00:56:39.514
movement and all that

00:56:39.554 --> 00:56:41.398
beautiful stuff just keeps

00:56:41.498 --> 00:56:42.219
rolling from there.

00:56:44.146 --> 00:56:44.646
Well, yeah,

00:56:44.666 --> 00:56:46.409
because you can make the choice.

00:56:46.869 --> 00:56:47.489
You can't just say,

00:56:47.509 --> 00:56:48.989
I'm going to be confident today.

00:56:49.030 --> 00:56:50.731
That's not how this works, right?

00:56:50.751 --> 00:56:51.911
You can't say, hey,

00:56:51.972 --> 00:56:53.614
I'm going to go for a walk today.

00:56:53.954 --> 00:56:55.135
I am going to see a coach today.

00:56:55.335 --> 00:56:57.797
I am going to go to the gym today.

00:56:57.996 --> 00:56:59.277
I am going to eat food

00:56:59.297 --> 00:57:00.217
that's going to make me

00:57:00.277 --> 00:57:02.400
feel better and more powerful.

00:57:02.800 --> 00:57:03.880
All those things are choices.

00:57:04.621 --> 00:57:05.742
Yes, yes.

00:57:06.143 --> 00:57:07.103
How beautifully how that

00:57:07.164 --> 00:57:09.105
wraps right into our

00:57:09.164 --> 00:57:11.226
beginning conversation of stoicism,

00:57:11.246 --> 00:57:13.248
of what you can control in

00:57:13.307 --> 00:57:14.769
life and what you can't.

00:57:15.469 --> 00:57:17.871
So take action with what you can.

00:57:18.532 --> 00:57:19.092
Look at that.

00:57:19.172 --> 00:57:21.755
We got top takeaways-ish

00:57:21.815 --> 00:57:23.056
without even talking about them,

00:57:23.655 --> 00:57:24.836
finishing right on time,

00:57:24.856 --> 00:57:27.059
which normally we get all over the place.

00:57:27.079 --> 00:57:28.739
We stayed relatively on track today.

00:57:28.760 --> 00:57:29.260
That was good.

00:57:30.701 --> 00:57:31.521
What else?

00:57:31.601 --> 00:57:32.782
What last bit of advice?

00:57:34.838 --> 00:57:35.878
do you have for the

00:57:35.938 --> 00:57:36.778
betterment of the group,

00:57:36.818 --> 00:57:37.458
the betterment of

00:57:37.699 --> 00:57:38.699
entrepreneurs out there?

00:57:38.739 --> 00:57:39.679
What is it they need to do?

00:57:39.739 --> 00:57:40.380
If there's one thing,

00:57:40.641 --> 00:57:41.240
we'll just do a top

00:57:41.280 --> 00:57:42.661
takeaway is one thing that

00:57:42.681 --> 00:57:44.083
needed to walk away from, from this show.

00:57:45.762 --> 00:57:46.003
Well,

00:57:46.123 --> 00:57:47.563
I think I'm going to table off of

00:57:47.603 --> 00:57:48.684
what you just said is

00:57:48.744 --> 00:57:50.266
self-care is not selfish.

00:57:50.905 --> 00:57:52.666
If you have big goals and

00:57:52.726 --> 00:57:53.746
big dreams in life,

00:57:54.447 --> 00:57:55.628
what are you doing day

00:57:55.708 --> 00:57:57.829
after day to actually make

00:57:57.869 --> 00:57:58.929
them become a reality?

00:57:59.961 --> 00:58:01.623
And be able to be there long

00:58:01.684 --> 00:58:02.724
enough to enjoy it,

00:58:02.844 --> 00:58:04.286
to enjoy the fruits of your labor.

00:58:05.927 --> 00:58:07.208
So put yourself first.

00:58:07.528 --> 00:58:08.889
And with doing so,

00:58:09.050 --> 00:58:10.150
you're going to see it

00:58:10.210 --> 00:58:11.932
spill over positively into

00:58:12.172 --> 00:58:13.353
all the people around you,

00:58:13.793 --> 00:58:15.275
whether it's your family, your friends,

00:58:15.936 --> 00:58:18.217
or your people who work for you.

00:58:18.237 --> 00:58:20.960
I mean, they want a healthy-minded,

00:58:21.141 --> 00:58:23.282
healthy physical person in charge.

00:58:24.755 --> 00:58:26.077
Yeah, I love that point.

00:58:26.137 --> 00:58:27.061
And I can say the

00:58:27.101 --> 00:58:28.965
counterpoint is my business

00:58:29.025 --> 00:58:30.289
is at its best when I am

00:58:30.329 --> 00:58:31.592
the healthiest because then

00:58:31.612 --> 00:58:32.795
I'm seeing things clearly.

00:58:34.679 --> 00:58:35.920
Right now I'm in a pretty healthy spot,

00:58:35.940 --> 00:58:39.240
and we're going through a rougher period.

00:58:39.260 --> 00:58:39.740
We're getting rid of a

00:58:39.780 --> 00:58:41.501
couple of employees this

00:58:41.561 --> 00:58:42.902
week because we've hired a few,

00:58:42.983 --> 00:58:45.284
and we're upgrading our team,

00:58:45.463 --> 00:58:46.664
and we're upgrading our bench.

00:58:47.585 --> 00:58:48.184
And some people are

00:58:48.204 --> 00:58:49.304
self-selecting out because

00:58:49.344 --> 00:58:50.206
they know they're on the hot seat,

00:58:50.226 --> 00:58:51.346
and the other people are letting go.

00:58:51.666 --> 00:58:53.547
And so that's always, for me,

00:58:53.626 --> 00:58:55.507
that's a frustrating time.

00:58:55.547 --> 00:58:57.048
And yet I'm going to it from

00:58:57.068 --> 00:58:58.548
a healthy perspective where it's like, no,

00:58:59.068 --> 00:59:01.117
there's nothing –

00:59:01.117 --> 00:59:01.418
you know,

00:59:01.438 --> 00:59:02.418
we're holding you a standard and

00:59:02.438 --> 00:59:03.039
you're choosing not to

00:59:03.079 --> 00:59:03.800
follow the standard.

00:59:04.059 --> 00:59:04.900
And I can say that with a

00:59:04.940 --> 00:59:06.362
clear mind and not,

00:59:06.481 --> 00:59:07.342
there's nothing vindictive.

00:59:07.362 --> 00:59:08.083
There's nothing shitty.

00:59:08.123 --> 00:59:08.603
There's nothing.

00:59:08.842 --> 00:59:09.824
It's like, yep, here it is.

00:59:09.923 --> 00:59:10.565
It is what it is.

00:59:10.625 --> 00:59:10.784
Right.

00:59:11.344 --> 00:59:14.867
And so that is because I

00:59:14.967 --> 00:59:16.108
choose to take care of myself.

00:59:16.148 --> 00:59:16.989
That is because I choose to

00:59:17.009 --> 00:59:18.230
go to the gym two days a week.

00:59:18.889 --> 00:59:19.851
i choose to play volleyball

00:59:19.891 --> 00:59:20.590
I choose to go play

00:59:20.610 --> 00:59:21.492
volleyball this week and I

00:59:21.512 --> 00:59:23.233
choose to um spend time

00:59:23.253 --> 00:59:24.273
with my daughter outside

00:59:24.313 --> 00:59:25.534
you know like even when the

00:59:25.594 --> 00:59:26.414
other day she was mad she's

00:59:26.434 --> 00:59:27.094
like dad we're supposed to

00:59:27.114 --> 00:59:27.855
have a lazy day and I was

00:59:27.875 --> 00:59:29.036
like no lazy day means

00:59:29.056 --> 00:59:30.356
we're not going to work yes

00:59:30.797 --> 00:59:31.597
however we are going

00:59:31.637 --> 00:59:32.356
outside and we're doing

00:59:32.396 --> 00:59:33.277
stuff outside we know we

00:59:33.338 --> 00:59:34.237
played football we ran

00:59:34.277 --> 00:59:36.320
around and um I know when

00:59:36.360 --> 00:59:37.900
my body's in motion I am

00:59:38.099 --> 00:59:39.141
the best version of myself

00:59:40.161 --> 00:59:41.121
there you go drop the mic boom

00:59:45.000 --> 00:59:45.280
All right.

00:59:45.800 --> 00:59:47.161
Well, Jenna Jans.

00:59:47.541 --> 00:59:47.940
Jans.

00:59:48.001 --> 00:59:48.860
It reminds me of this guy I

00:59:48.880 --> 00:59:49.621
was in Iraq with.

00:59:49.661 --> 00:59:50.922
His name was Janssen,

00:59:50.961 --> 00:59:52.242
but he always go with Janssen,

00:59:52.583 --> 00:59:53.483
like jogging.

00:59:54.123 --> 00:59:56.304
Very soft J. No big deal.

00:59:56.684 --> 00:59:56.903
Jenna,

00:59:56.923 --> 00:59:57.824
you stick around for a minute

00:59:57.923 --> 00:59:58.724
because we got to make sure

00:59:58.744 --> 00:59:59.605
your shit uploads and all

00:59:59.644 --> 01:00:00.244
those fun things.

01:00:00.585 --> 01:00:00.925
However,

01:00:01.025 --> 01:00:01.846
let's talk about the next couple

01:00:01.865 --> 01:00:02.706
episodes.

01:00:03.206 --> 01:00:03.585
Next week,

01:00:03.626 --> 01:00:04.967
we have our quarterly update

01:00:05.067 --> 01:00:06.067
with Andy Barton.

01:00:06.507 --> 01:00:07.447
Andy Barton's joined us.

01:00:07.507 --> 01:00:08.148
This is his 14th.

01:00:08.887 --> 01:00:09.768
to give us an update of what

01:00:09.849 --> 01:00:12.170
he's seen in the junk removal industry.

01:00:12.570 --> 01:00:13.311
And on July 15th,

01:00:13.530 --> 01:00:14.690
I've been looking forward

01:00:14.710 --> 01:00:15.532
to this one for a while.

01:00:15.871 --> 01:00:16.492
Kevin Hess.

01:00:16.532 --> 01:00:17.713
Kevin Hess is making his

01:00:17.773 --> 01:00:19.173
rounds recently on a lot of

01:00:19.193 --> 01:00:19.974
different podcasts.

01:00:19.994 --> 01:00:21.994
He is well-renowned within

01:00:22.014 --> 01:00:23.076
the junk removal community.

01:00:23.835 --> 01:00:24.376
15 plus years.

01:00:24.396 --> 01:00:25.697
He worked for Big Blue and

01:00:25.737 --> 01:00:26.677
now he's doing his own thing.

01:00:26.697 --> 01:00:27.778
He's put himself a lot on

01:00:27.818 --> 01:00:29.239
social media lately and I'm

01:00:29.280 --> 01:00:30.240
really excited for him to

01:00:30.280 --> 01:00:31.681
share his story and his

01:00:31.722 --> 01:00:33.403
journey here on the Trash

01:00:33.443 --> 01:00:34.543
Talk Business Podcast.

01:00:34.563 --> 01:00:35.585
So that's what we got coming

01:00:35.605 --> 01:00:36.306
up in the next two weeks.

01:00:36.746 --> 01:00:37.686
If you want to be a guest or

01:00:37.706 --> 01:00:39.148
you know a guest we need to have on,

01:00:39.168 --> 01:00:40.849
like I said, Casey's left the show.

01:00:41.409 --> 01:00:43.210
I am not very actively

01:00:43.251 --> 01:00:44.072
looking for a co-host.

01:00:44.172 --> 01:00:44.771
I'm open to it.

01:00:45.152 --> 01:00:45.853
And I'm going to keep this

01:00:45.893 --> 01:00:47.653
show going so long as we have guests.

01:00:48.275 --> 01:00:49.795
And when the day comes that

01:00:49.835 --> 01:00:51.336
the market responds and we have no guests,

01:00:51.356 --> 01:00:51.757
well then we...

01:00:52.498 --> 01:00:53.097
Table the show.

01:00:53.197 --> 01:00:54.139
That's as simple as this.

01:00:54.179 --> 01:00:56.000
That's the that's the directory I'm on.

01:00:56.039 --> 01:00:57.500
I want to serve the greater

01:00:57.519 --> 01:00:58.581
drunk community,

01:00:58.780 --> 01:00:59.860
and I ultimately need your

01:00:59.920 --> 01:01:01.802
support to ensure that we

01:01:01.822 --> 01:01:03.003
have great guests lined up.

01:01:03.043 --> 01:01:04.103
So if you have a vendor,

01:01:04.742 --> 01:01:05.563
you have a customer,

01:01:05.923 --> 01:01:07.844
you have yourself or even a

01:01:07.885 --> 01:01:08.664
competitor that you think

01:01:08.704 --> 01:01:10.045
would be a great guest on

01:01:10.085 --> 01:01:10.806
this show that you want to

01:01:10.846 --> 01:01:11.927
learn from and grow from,

01:01:12.347 --> 01:01:13.086
send them my way.

01:01:13.186 --> 01:01:14.027
Taylor, our producer,

01:01:14.047 --> 01:01:15.168
will get them hooked up and

01:01:15.208 --> 01:01:16.047
we will have them on an

01:01:16.188 --> 01:01:17.389
upcoming episode of the

01:01:17.469 --> 01:01:19.190
Trash Talk Business Podcast.

01:01:19.730 --> 01:01:22.291
So on behalf of Taylor, our producer,

01:01:22.670 --> 01:01:24.771
Jenny Yans, our amazing guest today,

01:01:25.192 --> 01:01:25.952
I'm Andy Wines.

01:01:26.271 --> 01:01:27.291
This has been a Trash Talk

01:01:27.313 --> 01:01:28.213
Business Podcast,

01:01:28.532 --> 01:01:30.213
and we will see you next week.

01:01:34.255 --> 01:01:34.974
Thanks for listening.

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